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The question is why he is doing all the other stuff when I made it clear I would sleep with him no strings attached.
Right I think most of the responses here, either: haven't read your posts, have reading comprehension issues, or want to assert thier definition of what a FWB is.
Personally, I think you have a better handle on your relationship than most of the respondants here ever could.
The question is why he is doing all the other stuff when I made it clear I would sleep with him no strings attached.
Because he likes you and likes spending time with you.
All I can really think of is the religious difference. He brought you to his church, you're atheist and don't plan on changing. Perhaps his religion means enough to him that he doesn't want to pursue a "real" relationship with you because of the religious differences between you two.
He enjoys your company and being a part of your life beyond and including sex, but he doesn't actually want to commit to a relationship with you. That's only confusing depending on how you perceive what he's supposed to want. So let's say you think a guy's supposed to want sex with no strings attached unless he wants to be with you. That's it. A man either wants to be with you or fu-k you without any attachment.
You'd naturally think that if you offer a guy one of those options and he says no, it must mean he wants the other one. But this guy's caRAAAzee. He wants some kooky hybrid where it's not just about sex but also isn't a committed relationship. What's up with that? Well, it might just be what he wants, nothing confusing about it.
Like someone else touched on, he might enjoy reaping the benefits of a girlfriend without actually having a girlfriend, even if whether or not you're his girlfriend only boils down to what you call your relationship. Labels matter. That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet, but it might cost less.
If you're okay with the way things are, who cares why he wants to do all the other stuff even though you said he doesn't have to? Let him ponder it. For curiosity's sake, though, a lot of people gave you some good theories.
No, no , no , no, men are single-minded and logical creatures, very easy to figure out.
It's women who (over)think and feel ... those are the confusing ones.
We need another pole.
I can see where he's coming from. If he genuinely enjoys your company then a FWB relationship under your guidelines would eliminate the possibility of hanging out with you other than to have sex. I look at it as he enjoys your company---along with the sex---but doesn't necessarily want to deal with the work and compromise necessary to keep the standard committed relationship afloat. Doesn't necessarily mean he has a phobia of commitment. It most likely means that at this time he doesn't want to give up the freedom and mobility he currently enjoys to be in a full-time committed relationship. If it was just sex that he was interested in, then he would have jumped at your FWB offer and been cool with it. By him being honest with you he's at least giving you the opportunity to determine if what he wants is aligned with what you want from him.
Yea, I agree with this. Both men and women get lonely, and sometimes just having sex doesn't exactly fill that void. I was in a similar situation about a year ago, lasted about 3 months, I ended it cause I felt like it was time to move on if he didn't want to move forward with me.
I also agree with the poster who said he's probably not seeing anybody else, but wants to keep that option open.
No, no , no , no, men are single-minded and logical creatures, very easy to figure out.
It's women who (over)think and feel ... those are the confusing ones.
We need another pole.
Dang it...my rep comment posted before I wanted it to..."pole" LOL
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I think most of the responses here, either: haven't read your posts, have reading comprehension issues, or want to assert thier definition of what a FWB is. 
