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Old 04-09-2014, 07:12 AM
 
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Originally Posted by sailoretta View Post
How old are you?

Sorry, I don`t really think he`s interested in you. When a guy is interested in a girl he shows her. He texts her. He calls her. He doesn`t wait for her making the first step. He said he might be interested in you, but he didn`t really say that to your face, he also didn`t ask you for a date. I think he`s just using you as a backup plan.

My recommendation: Stop contacting him. If he likes you HE will get back to you. If not, not.
My sentiments exactly. My very first thought was indeed " how old are you?". You are coming across as obsessive and needy, or perhaps it's just immaturity. For the record I'm a 21 year old college senior and I'd never act the way you are. It doesn't sound right...calm down, and quit obsessing over someone you barely know!
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Old 04-10-2014, 07:42 AM
 
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This is 2014. Everyone, for the most part, sends text messages. It doesn't take long to send, receive, or respond to one. It's quite easy to text someone without disrupting anyone around you. There are exceptions. I know someone who is a doctor in a prison. He's not replying to texts and phone calls because he's not allowed to take his phone in the prison.

I think someone responding to your text within a couple of hours is quite good. 20 minutes is excellent in my mind. But if you're the one initiating, that's a problem. And not one phone call? That's not good, either.

If I am initiating anything constantly with a guy.....if he rarely/never initiates? I take it as the guy not being that interested in me. If he takes more than a day to respond to a text, he is not interested but he's keeping you in his back pocket in case nothing better comes along.

This foolishness seems to transcend age since immaturity is not age-limited. This is literally happening to me right now, and I'm in my very early 30s....the guy is in his mid-30s. Yes, we are "too grown" to be doing this. Yes, it's annoying. That's what I get for dating cute, socially awkward-but-manipulative STEM dorks.

Just delete his contact info and move on. If he wants to date you, he will come find you, believe me. By then, you will likely not even be concerned with him, what he's up to, or if he's waiting for your texts.
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Old 04-11-2014, 11:23 AM
 
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It seems to me, you are kind of being a little too aggressive.

I can tell you like this guy, but you can't really tell he is interested through text. If I was in that position, I would just pull back and if he likes me, he will get back to me. If a guy was really that interested, he would text, call, check on you, and all that. From what I can see, I feel like is not really that interested. I would feel like I was annoying him at that point.
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