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Wow, went to another licensed counseling social worker and he gave me a hard time by saying "how he didn't have a real clear picture" and that was why he was asking many many questions. And keep in mind I am a very direct and detail focused person, I've been told that from several sources. His only advice was to write down the negative thoughts I had about myself. And like that would help ?? I also had to probe him for advice because he was NOT freely giving it to me.
Another problem is that he "put words into my mouth" and then said so isn't that right and making speculations about me. I was sort of overwhelmed and confused by the speculations as they didn't ring true for me. It was like he was from mars and I was from planet earth. I had to correct him and I felt on the defensive rather than supported and helped.
Anyways, your thoughts on this? Is this a situation like with the bad hair cutters or what??? lol
Wow, went to another licensed counseling social worker and he gave me a hard time by saying "how he didn't have a real clear picture" and that was why he was asking many many questions. And keep in mind I am a very direct and detail focused person, I've been told that from several sources. His only advice was to write down the negative thoughts I had about myself. And like that would help ?? I also had to probe him for advice because he was NOT freely giving it to me.
Another problem is that he "put words into my mouth" and then said so isn't that right and making speculations about me. I was sort of overwhelmed and confused by the speculations as they didn't ring true for me. It was like he was from mars and I was from planet earth. I had to correct him and I felt on the defensive rather than supported and helped.
Anyways, your thoughts on this? Is this a situation like with the bad hair cutters or what??? lol
Well, just my opinion here, most social workers are kind of like public defenders. They are overworked and underpaid. I know about five social workers, and they have a harder job than most people realize. I wouldn't expect much if I were you. Sorry you're having a hard time though.
Look for someone else. My experience is that if you don't feel comfortable it's not very helpful. Can you get a referral from a friend with a similiar vibe who has had good luck with their therapist? All therapists are not created equal. It's kind of like making a new friend but within certain boundries because of the nature of the relationship.
Yep he looked overworked. He was all sweaty (massive pit stains) and looked agitated. He probably needed some therapy himself.
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Originally Posted by Dennis58
Well, just my opinion here, most social workers are kind of like public defenders. They are overworked and underpaid. I know about five social workers, and they have a harder job than most people realize. I wouldn't expect much if I were you. Sorry you're having a hard time though.
Somewhere in a recent thread we were talking about how ... maybe about 10% of therapists/counselors are really good. In all fairness, we were just saying that about a lot of professions. So don't take it personally that it didn't feel right, felt awkward, wasn't helpful. Look for someone else.
But ... good counseling can be uncomfortable. It just isn't uncomfortable in a way that is totally irrelevant and unhelpful.
I also wanted to add one thing ... I don't know enough about the different approaches to therapy, different theoretical "schools" etc. But, the current thinking is that counseling should be more "collaborative". So beware of someone who talks on and on about "boundaries" between therapist and patient and then just stares at you crazily, refusing to say anything helpful. I would vote for more of a conversation between two adults.
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