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I can't count the number of times growing up I was on the receiving end of "she's got a great personality, but..." Now I mostly get the grownup version: "You're awesome, but I'm not physically attracted to you." First time I was barked at, I was 18; the second was a few years ago. Those stung, especially when it happened the second time as an adult-took me right back to the evil teen years.
I grew up with an "adoring" step-mother who assured me that men would only "use me and lose me" for sex because I wasn't good looking enough for anything else. The worst though was my father calling me at work one day when I was 24 to very seriously ask what was so wrong with me that I couldn't attract a man. My being single at 24 was quite the disgrace. (Unlike divorced at 25 with two kids like my brother. That was perfectly acceptable). Then when I met my late hubby (at 25), both my parents, who hadn't agreed on anything since I was 9 both told me if anything went wrong, it would be my fault. Dad died before LH, but I honestly would not be surprised if on some level Mom blames me. Ironically, I'm the only one in my family who actually got it right when it comes to picking a partner.
I can't count the number of times growing up I was on the receiving end of "she's got a great personality, but..." Now I mostly get the grownup version: "You're awesome, but I'm not physically attracted to you." First time I was barked at, I was 18; the second was a few years ago. Those stung, especially when it happened the second time as an adult-took me right back to the evil teen years.
I grew up with an "adoring" step-mother who assured me that men would only "use me and lose me" for sex because I wasn't good looking enough for anything else. The worst though was my father calling me at work one day when I was 24 to very seriously ask what was so wrong with me that I couldn't attract a man. My being single at 24 was quite the disgrace. (Unlike divorced at 25 with two kids like my brother. That was perfectly acceptable). Then when I met my late hubby (at 25), both my parents, who hadn't agreed on anything since I was 9 both told me if anything went wrong, it would be my fault. Dad died before LH, but I honestly would not be surprised if on some level Mom blames me. Ironically, I'm the only one in my family who actually got it right when it comes to picking a partner.
I approached this curvy~ woman at a club asking if I could buy her another drink (Mai Tai I believe she was having) She replied "I don't do Chinks" Lol, wth. So, I told her "you know, pregnant women shouldn't drinking"
I approached this curvy~ woman at a club asking if I could buy her another drink (Mai Tai I believe she was having) She replied "I don't do Chinks" Lol, wth. So, I told her "you know, pregnant women shouldn't drinking"
My friend was called that and she's Filipino. She said if you are going to insult me use the right word.
Yeah, the worst of rejection I ever get generally is someone not contacting me. It's really annoying when someone says they want to go out again, and they just don't contact you.
The harshest I have had lately involved me inviting the guy out for a movie he said he really wanted to see. it's a really niche movie, too, so I knew when I asked him that if he said no he was really saying "not with you". He took three days to let me know that he couldn't make it "but thanks for the invite." Message received! On to the next one.
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We all look Chinese to a lot of folks, Lol
Hmmmn, I'll take that Mai Tai, thanks!
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Lol, wth. So, I told her "you know, pregnant women shouldn't drinking" 
because that rejection then doesn't feel bad anymore.
