Women, my people: why must the arrival of the bill be such a delicate situation? (different, restaurant)
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Maybe next online profile I make I should write that I am "looking for a partner in law to help crush out the misguided antics of hooligans and thugs! Together we shall make them conform! Hail Hydra!"
LOL, I wonder if anyone would respond to that. It might be fun to just make a goofy profile and see what happens
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Heck ya! That's far more interesting. I totally make fun of "partner in crime" - "I'm as comfortable in a little black dress and heels as I am in jeans and a ball cap" - "I have a great life, good job and friends, and a close family... I'm just looking for a man to share it all with, could it be you?" stuff in my profile... Don't need none of those norms in my life.
It is interesting to see the differences between forums on stuff like this. This forum leans heavily towards the old fashioned, traditional side of things on such topics. On another forum I'm on, it's the exact opposite. Anyway, bravo to the women who are bucking tradition.
I've never felt awkward about the bill. I always offer to pay. The bill comes to the table and I take out my wallet. In my experience, the guy almost always says no that's okay, I'll get it. At which point I say oh thank you, I really appreciate that. He pays the bill. That's it. I think most guys appreciate the offer and that I don't just sit there when the bill comes assuming he's going to take of it. I appreciate when a guy pays for me, but I don't expect it and I'm fine paying my own way. I think people get too wrapped up in gender roles and who should do what.
Assuming both people work and have money, then I don't think the guy should always be on the hook to pick up the tab. Things were different 50 years ago. A lot of women didn't have their own income to pick up the tab. BUT there's nothing wrong with a guy who wants to take the lead and pay for the woman either. It's highly situational.
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