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If you are worried that the child is actually yours convince her to get checked at the doctors.Later on a paternity test is done.She can take you to court and they will base it on both parties income.
She is probably acting nuts from hormones and this is a huge responsibilty.She is testing you to see if you will supportive of having a child that both of you created.
This can be life changing think things through wisely.Have support from family members.
Daycare expenses are outragious.
Like I tell my son, women are in charge of their bodies once they become pregnant.
I suggest you buck up and be supportive of your future child's mother or the court will get you.
Welcome to parent life.
It's always funny reading back at the comments of female logic.
I happened to saw her standing by the bench outside the building during the lunch time and guess what... (She didn't see me though) Her stomach is as flat as before when I saw her 3 months ago. She's supposed to be having her belly grown since the beginning of Feb. but it's flat.
She's only 5 months along...so she could still be pregnant and have a pretty flat stomach. My sister in law didn't show at all until she was 6-7 months along and a friend of mine barely looked pregnant when she delivered, bloated looking, but did not look pregnant.
If that's not the case she either terminated it, had a miscarriage or lied.
Ok, first off, I met this girl 4 months ago and we made out 2 months ago.
And of course, that was it. We weren't even dating and it was purely an impulsive encounter so to speak.
Here's the timeline
- 2013 beginning of Dec: First time meeting as cool friends
- 2014 beginning of Feb: had one and only sex (after making out, she asked me to be her bf but refused to do so because she seemed better off being a friend)
- 2014 Feb - Mar: We never went out together again but happened to see each other evey once in a while since we work in the same bldg (ughhhh)
- 2014 Early Apr: She sends me a txt claiming she's pregnant. She said yesterday she went to go see the doctor after work and had a blood test. On the following day, I politely asked for the doctor's note and she responded by saying "who carries that?" I was like "what....?" She told me I looked mad so she walked off.
Next day 4/3: I txted her: I made an appoinment with a dr. tmrrw so let's go together after work. I even asked her for the doctor's note and she said she will bring it.
She calls me that same day after work, and asks me "what do you want to gain from me providing you the doctor's note?" I explained her as to why I need to see it. I told her I need to get the consultation from doctor so that we can start from there. Then, she hung up on me. She gets mad everytime I bring up about seeing a dr together or her proof that she's pregnant.
4/4: No communication. (Of course I had to cancel the dr. appoinment)
4/5: She txted me saying she feels tired and saw blood early in the morning while peeing.
I txted her back saying I'm going to make another appoinment tmrrw so let's go this time for sure. She didn't respond so I called her but didn't answer.
4/6: I txted her saying how come you are not being cooperative and she said she was busy with her friend having a baby shower and picking up gifts, etc. (I almost went nuts by this point) She then continued our conversation talking about her work and friends etc, nothing relevent to the pregnancy.
4/7: She txted me during the work hours asking me to bring her a cup of tea and I said no.
4/8: She txted me good morning but didn't respond back til that afternoon.
4/9: That night, she txted me "Do you think I should keep the baby or not? I need your opinion about this today so that I can make up my mind" I then txted her back saying I'm afraid I can't right now because I want to know how long it's been and to do so, we need to go see the doctor together. I also notified her that we shall go to the clinic tmrrw. She replied back saying "Y can't you answer my question?"
I txted her back saying we have to go see the doctor together before making any decisions so please bring the doctor's note. She didn't respond.
4/10: I saw her in lobby today after work asked her about the doctor's note's whereabout, the she goes "Oh you finally came to talk to me?" and walked off. I felt like my soul was literally vaporizing above my brain.
Why is she keep refusing to have a checked up? Isn't she supposed to be confident if she's really pregnant? She already refused three times..
So Is my life f----d or what. For the past 10 days I think I've gone through one of the most annoying days of my life and had the nastiest feelings towards women. Is she trying to trap me and f---- me over? Is she really pregnant? Is there any way I can figure it out? I'm really tired of this game.
Your valuable input is appreciated.
Had something very similar happen to me about 5-6 years ago. Started seeing this girl, something seemed off, so, I broke it off. About a month later, boom. I was so freaked out. I was more freaked than anything because the girl seemed to be a little bit of a psycho to begin with, so, who knew what she was capable of. I even tried the peeing in front thing, which she did and was positive. I had quite a few months of worrying. Went through the "Do you want to go to the doctor with me", blah blah, then she would cancel on me. She would randomly send me sonogram pics, asking for my input on the name, etc.
Turned out, she was married, even though she vehemently denied it when we had dated. I did some snooping around and found the house she had bought with him online and the address and what not.
Before the due date, she gotten a hold of me, asking if I wanted to come visit her in the hospital, blah blah. I told her that I knew she was married, and had proof, and to leave me alone or I would let him know all about it. She denied it, of course, but, I never heard from her again.
Found through some detective work that her husband signed the birth certificate, which, in Texas, get's you off the hook. I have a friend that works for CPS that did some digging for me on it and explained to me how parental rights work in Texas, and from doing some research was able to confirm as such.
I have secretly seen a few pictures of the child.. looks just like her mother and the husband, who as far as I can tell are still married.
All I can say is, try not to sweat it until you know for sure.. Also.. let that be a lesson... Wrap It Up!
I happened to saw her standing by the bench outside the building during the lunch time and guess what... (She didn't see me though) Her stomach is as flat as before when I saw her 3 months ago. She's supposed to be having her belly grown since the beginning of Feb. but it's flat.
This doesn't mean anything. Check back in another month. But it does seem like she's messing with you. Maybe to get back at you for refusing to be her bf?
Something seems off about her behaviour, so maybe she isn't pregnant, and maybe if she is, you aren't the daddy. She may just hoping that you'll take responsibility for whatever reason. It makes absolutely no sense that she would make herself so difficult to get a hold of, if she's serious about going after child support from you. She hasn't made any attempt to get you to pay for any of the necessities that an expected baby would need... the crib, the stroller, the clothes, the diapers, etc.... (yes, it's perhaps early if she's 5 months at this point, but not really too early to start seeking financial help). The whole situation seems dubious. But let's say she is pregnant. You need a lawyer asap.
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