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Location: Went around the corner & now I'm lost!!!!
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Originally Posted by TJenkins602
I'm sure there are safer ways to protect yourself. I mean, you could read about it, talk to people who have dealt with manipulators, I don't know, anything other than get involved with a manipulator.
Get a couple of female friends you can trust and they will educate you. And ask her to be honest with you when you do something that makes you a victim...it may hurt a little but nothing like a good honest friend.
Go to the clubs, park, Walmart (best) , a concert, the mall (another good one) and sit and have her point out the things to you she sees in a manipulator. Sometimes she will tell you to stop and listen to a nearby conversation so you can learn the terminology, the mannerism of manipulators and see how the person being manipulated responds. Knowledge IS power and experience is a very good teacher
Location: Went around the corner & now I'm lost!!!!
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Originally Posted by Lilac110
Because Googling "how to spot an emotional manipulator" takes much less time and doesn't compel you to sink to the manipulator's level. Besides, if you knew he was a manipulator from the start, you already know how to spot one. All you needed to do was remove yourself from the situation.
Instead, it seems to me like you just wanted to try to beat him at his own game, and you wasted six months of your life in doing so, just to be spiteful. Sounds not only juvenile, but like a complete waste of time to me.
I gained knowledge therefore my time was not wasted. Plus we were not exclusive to one another so there you have it.
Originally Posted by eyewrist:
His techniques was unconditional giving, next conditional giving, then complaining and criticizing without giving and followed by gradual increase of out right burst of anger if things weren't done his way.
This is really the best description I have ever seen -- far better than any internet 'red flag' list I have come across.
Get a couple of female friends you can trust and they will educate you. And ask her to be honest with you when you do something that makes you a victim...it may hurt a little but nothing like a good honest friend.
Go to the clubs, park, Walmart (best) , a concert, the mall (another good one) and sit and have her point out the things to you she sees in a manipulator. Sometimes she will tell you to stop and listen to a nearby conversation so you can learn the terminology, the mannerism of manipulators and see how the person being manipulated responds. Knowledge IS power and experience is a very good teacher
Walmart, I always shop at stores, but I also find that a lot of people (men) have issues with boundaries.
And I was always around manipulators even raised by a manipulator for a good part of my childhood. I agree that there are certain things that only experience can teach you. I do have a female friend that I trust and she's been through all kinds of hell so she knows what to watch out for.
It is appealing to some women desperate to get some security in their life. Whether it be financial, emotional, or what have you, having an easily controlled man that likely won't leave is appealing. That is until the kids are somewhat autonomous and captain controlled is boring and her boss starts to seem pretty attractive.
And having known a couple of men who were passive "yes men" who didn't have their own interests, spine or a life that didn't revolve around their SO, I think women don't respect that kind of man.
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Knowledge IS power and experience is a very good teacher
