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Dating use to be just about getting to know one another with an activity thrown in to help break the ice....
What the hell happened?
Yes, but meals/movies have always been standard date fare.
As a teen (when I was finally allowed to date, lol) my father fully intended for any boy who asked me out to pay, but sent me with my own money regardless.
I didn't expect boys/men to pay for everything. If I suddenly want a coke or whatever, I'm not going to be like Sandy in Grease 'I need some money, please'.
The first boy I dated would have been fine with that, though. If I tried to buy so much as a coke he was up to get it for me.
Or I guess he would have liked me to say 'I'd like a coke' or 'would you get me a coke?'
IDK - I have never asked so I can't even come up with hypotheticals. I just know he (and most men I dated) were aghast at the idea of me spending a dime on anything.
Recently a man just wanted to die, I think, because I was (as I always do) discussing with the waitress how to get what I'd like in a 'meal package' which is almost always cheaper than just ordering individual items.
I guess that's an ego thing - he didn't want to look cheap.
I met a guy online. He is super nice and wants to meet up tomorrow night, but I'm low on funds and I really want to go out with him, but i don't want to tell him I'm low on funds and I'm not assuming he will pay the bill, i have a strong feeling he will tho, but i don't want to take chances. Should i postpone with him or just tell him my situation. What should i do?
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Originally Posted by back2MD
i'm afraid he might think that i'm not interested if i postpone to 4/25
Holy s#$t. What kind of woman are you?
You like a guy because he's nice, don't assume he will pay for the date, and on top of that are afraid of scaring HIM away?
Been there done that. It really does suck. I'm with you OP, didn't want to let them know and didn't want to cancel or move it to another date.
Ask what did he have in mind. Then maybe suggest something free or outdoorsy. Just have transportation money/cell phone on you. Become indignant if he even tunes up to ask for you to pay for anything.lol
I met a guy online. He is super nice and wants to meet up tomorrow night, but I'm low on funds and I really want to go out with him, but i don't want to tell him I'm low on funds and I'm not assuming he will pay the bill, i have a strong feeling he will tho, but i don't want to take chances. Should i postpone with him or just tell him my situation. What should i do?
Go with him, you never know! Try doing something that don't required a lot of money, keep it simple. The first date should be more focus on getting to know one another rather than a expensive date. The thing is some times people can over do it trying to impress someone. He probably want to treat you but if you find yourself in a situation where you think you have to pay an amount you can't afford before it goes any further just tell him you feel the first date should be focus more about y'all getting to know one another, like if the weather good, go to the park, a museum, an art show, something like that. But if he do pay for yall dinner, you give the tip!
Been there done that. It really does suck. I'm with you OP, didn't want to let them know and didn't want to cancel or move it to another date.
Ask what did he have in mind. Then maybe suggest something free or outdoorsy. Just have transportation money/cell phone on you. Become indignant if he even tunes up to ask for you to pay for anything.lol
I still live in that world, and with all the confusion that is demonstrated in these threads I'm glad I do
I went on a date this weekend and the guy politely made it clear that he wanted to pay the bill when it arrived unlike the loser from last week who I split the bill with. haha
But yeah, I still had my own money to pay, if necessary.
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