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I thought the rock example would simplify this for you. Are you genuinely confused by what I said, or are you just being contrary?
I'm not confused you used what I find an illogical analogy of a generally a violent act intended to harm to compare it to telling someone a truth they already know. I got that you are emotionally projecting onto her words so you see it as an action intended to hurt and even though you're not hurt you'll question why she tried to.
Out of curiosity...for women only, what do you consider hot as opposed to pretty? It can't be based on the body/muscles because you can't see the guy's body (his six pack, lol) when you first look at the guy. You only see his face....so what makes a guy's face scream 'hot' rather than 'pretty'?
Out of curiosity...for women only, what do you consider hot as opposed to pretty? It can't be based on the body/muscles because you can't see the guy's body (his six pack, lol) when you first look at the guy. You only see his face....so what makes a guy's face scream 'hot' rather than 'pretty'?
Why don't you tell us how this whole conversation came about in the first place - and then maybe we'll answer some more of your questions.
Out of curiosity...for women only, what do you consider hot as opposed to pretty? It can't be based on the body/muscles because you can't see the guy's body (his six pack, lol) when you first look at the guy. You only see his face....so what makes a guy's face scream 'hot' rather than 'pretty'?
The bolded is a weird statement. It's not just a visible six-pack that makes a guy hot. "Hotness" will different for everyone, but it's generally based on the kind of sexual confidence he gives off.
Why don't you tell us how this whole conversation came about in the first place - and then maybe we'll answer some more of your questions.
I don't see why this is so important, but here it goes. I was at her place. Her mom always used to say that I am cute. That night also she said something similar.... so I winked at my ex and said, "Well, what do you think?" It wasn't even a question but a playful gesture, yet she answered with all seriousness... that I am cute but others are hotter. Make of it what you will.
The bolded is a weird statement. It's not just a visible six-pack that makes a guy hot. "Hotness" will different for everyone, but it's generally based on the kind of sexual confidence he gives off.
Someone once told me cute=puppy, hot=wolf. Like, you're not intimidated by a cute guy, rather you look at them with amusement the way you'd look at a baby or puppy. But if it's a hot guy, well, you catch my drift...
I'm a girl, and if I were you, I'd dump her sorry ass! She's tearing your confidence apart and that's not okay. When you're with someone, it's because you like/love them as a whole not because of their "personality" or "appearance" unless you're completely shallow. Truthfully, you can't accept this type of non-constructive criticism. Do you really want to be with a girl who's not attracted to you? C'mon, have a bit of self-respect dude and dump her. She's shallow and immature. She's probably dating you because you're "nice" (i.e: doormat).
Go find some girl who will actually like you for who you are and won't disrespect you! Have a sense of pride and leave her. You deserve much better, I'm sure
I don't see why this is so important, but here it goes. I was at her place. Her mom always used to say that I am cute. That night also she said something similar.... so I winked at my ex and said, "Well, what do you think?" It wasn't even a question but a playful gesture, yet she answered with all seriousness... that I am cute but others are hotter. Make of it what you will.
Well...
That was unnecessary...
Yeah, she didn't have to say that.
I think she probably was trying to cut you down. Now that I have a better sense of the context, it seems like she was insecure and for some reason felt the need to kinda cut you down to size.
Especially if you were being playful. From what it sounds like, you didn't ask a serious question. Yeah, I'm thinking it could have gotten worse from here.
I don't see why this is so important, but here it goes. I was at her place. Her mom always used to say that I am cute. That night also she said something similar.... so I winked at my ex and said, "Well, what do you think?" It wasn't even a question but a playful gesture, yet she answered with all seriousness... that I am cute but others are hotter. Make of it what you will.
The context does matter. This one is in the middle of "I asked how I rank compared to men in past relationships" and "it came out of nowhere". I agree with Tjenkins602 that she didn't need to go there. However, her comment wasn't that you're not good looking. I think drawing that conclusion says something about your mindset, as does asking the question in the first place, even playfully. Maybe something to think about.
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