Do guys know within 6 months of dating if they want to marry a girl? (woman, husband)

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Missnoname

Then he meant it too when he said he was just kidding?

No. See my previous post.

[Dewdroplet76]

I think you need to start trying to have your relationship with your boyfriend instead of with CD.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Hell, I knew in the first six minutes.

I've heard it's not unusual for guys to know within minutes, or within the first date. But those would be baggage-free guys who haven't been through a divorce that makes them suspicious of everyone.

[nearnorth]

Originally Posted by timberline742

Oh stop.

Sorry not sorry. The infantilization of women is creepy as hell, not to mention offensive.

[usamathman]

Yes

[Missnoname]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

No. See my previous post.

So I messed it up by not agreeing to it.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Missnoname

So I messed it up by not agreeing to it.

No, you didn't mess it up. He's still thinking about marriage. How can you agree to marriage after just 6 months? And just on a moment's notice like that? Nothing is messed up. He'll bring it up again later sometime, don't worry. But at least now you know he's serious about you. You know what's in the cards.

[volosong]

Originally Posted by Missnoname

Then he meant it too when he said he was just kidding?

No. Saying that he was only kidding was a "face saving" move. Your reaction, intended or not, embarrassed him.

I'm with the others. Give it at least a year, probably more. See him in all seasons and types of situations while watching how he handles himself.

[nearnorth]

Originally Posted by Lilac110

Maybe. It depends on how well you know each other. The older you get, the less time it takes, too.

Interesting. I've actually found the opposite to be true. When I was in my teens and 20's it was easy to get caught up in the surge of chemically induced emotions and imagine spending my whole life with someone after a short amount of time without really thinking it through. Twenty years later I'm far more rational, and need to spend a long time getting to know someone well before I can even think of making such a commitment.

[Atlguy39]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

There isn't some magic time frame where all guys will know if a gal is right for them. Surely you know this. That said, I think couples should spend a minimum of two years together before making any decisions about marriage.

I disagree with this advice. If your in your forties and want a family, you don't have the luxury of waiting that long. It also shouldn't take that long to figure it out. I say a year.