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Old 04-27-2014, 01:19 AM
 
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So, I have a dilemma. I'm pretty low in the self-confidence area, but a girl from my work, I believe, has been giving me signs of interest. A few times I look and see that's she made eye-contact with me, and on two occasions she's seen me go into the vending machine room, and went in herself. I know I should've started a conversation in there, but I freaked, and my mind went blank. :/ She even said hi, but my throat literally went dry and I didn't say anything. So now she probably thinks I'm not interested or a jerk.

I've always had social anxiety and I'm not very experienced with relationships, at all. My question, would it be too creepy to cold message her on FB and just say "hey" and see if I get a response?

Some details worth mentioning: Even though she works at the same location, she's not in the same department. I really can't spark up a convo with her without it being obvious what I'm doing. So, I'm kind of stuck on what I should do.
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Old 04-27-2014, 01:55 AM
 
Location: Lincoln, NE
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Don't worry about being "creepy." If you really want to try messaging her on Facebook, then just do it. That being said, chicks do not respect online communication. It's just not a form of communication that's associated with bravery or confidence -- the qualities that girls love in men. Obviously, it would be better if you talked to her in real life. It would be even better if you could joke around with her and make her laugh a bit before you ask for her number.

I suggest practicing talking to women that you have no interest in. Don't ask them out. Just joke around with them and gain confidence talking to women. Then use that experience on girls that actually interest you.
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Old 04-27-2014, 02:01 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Nut up and talk to her in person.

Don't send the message you're a scared weenie. Give yourself some credit! Take confidence in the fact that she has been sending you signals. Don't hide behind a computer.
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Old 04-27-2014, 05:52 AM
 
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Nut up and talk to her in person.

Don't send the message you're a scared weenie. Give yourself some credit! Take confidence in the fact that she has been sending you signals. Don't hide behind a computer.
'Scared weenie!' Lol!!!

I know right!!
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Old 04-27-2014, 05:54 AM
 
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So, I have a dilemma. I'm pretty low in the self-confidence area, but a girl from my work, I believe, has been giving me signs of interest. A few times I look and see that's she made eye-contact with me, and on two occasions she's seen me go into the vending machine room, and went in herself. I know I should've started a conversation in there, but I freaked, and my mind went blank. :/ She even said hi, but my throat literally went dry and I didn't say anything. So now she probably thinks I'm not interested or a jerk.

I've always had social anxiety and I'm not very experienced with relationships, at all. My question, would it be too creepy to cold message her on FB and just say "hey" and see if I get a response?

Some details worth mentioning: Even though she works at the same location, she's not in the same department. I really can't spark up a convo with her without it being obvious what I'm doing. So, I'm kind of stuck on what I should do.
Go over to her station and say hi!

Good night! Women are not going to kill you for being friendly.
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Old 04-27-2014, 06:58 AM
 
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Don't do it dude. Talk to her in person, she is harmless.
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Old 04-27-2014, 07:14 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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creepy and stalkerish if you message her from out of the blue on fb.
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Old 04-27-2014, 07:17 AM
 
Location: Belgrade, Serbia
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It sounds like she is just being nice, so far. So an out of the blue FB message would be creepy. But try talking to her.
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Old 04-27-2014, 07:20 AM
 
Location: Missouri
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This is how she would perceive your Facebook message: "hi, I've been watching you at work, so I decided to track you Down"
- love psycho
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Old 04-27-2014, 07:32 AM
 
Location: Pa
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You should send nude pics.
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