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I think there's a tendency for women here to overuse the word "misogynist." Just because a guy doesn't think women are "sugar and spice and everything nice", doesn't mean he hates women. Lots of us get our views about the dating world from objective observations we've made, and we don't see any point of sugarcoating these realities.
I do appreciate the women in this forum who try to get us men to have more optimistic views of the dating world, but those of us who are analytical realists just don't buy into the tripe.
My point is that women are going to notice the people that disparage women more and the men are going to notice the people that disparage men more.
Most of the threads or posts by women are about the relationship they're in, while most of the threads or posts by men are about how to become attractive enough to get in a relationship. Different set of issues, I guess.
I never really looked at the numbers closely, but I am usually talking about just managing to find someone past date #1. I haven't been in a real relationship in more than four years (and I am a woman). I did date a man for a few months recently, but he refused a relationship and that fell apart. That's the closest I got.
The one thing that *has* stuck me though, a lot of the men who complain about not being able to attract anyone are in their early to mid 20s. That was the roughest time for me too (I never had a heyday as some people brought up). In fact, I couldn't get a single date from the time I was 19-26 . I think it's not the men in question... but I think it's something about that age and a combination of introverted personality because I know for a fact I am not the only woman who had (has) this problem. none of my friends had men falling at their feet either.
Most of the threads or posts by women are about the relationship they're in, while most of the threads or posts by men are about how to become attractive enough to get in a relationship. Different set of issues, I guess.
Sharp observation. I think you're right. Broadly speaking, the biggest trouble women have with relationships is finding a good man, while the biggest problem men in relationships have is finding anyone at all.
There's sort of a subtle censoring that takes place on this forum, OP. The women who can't find relationships get told by the men that women by their nature have guys lining up to date them daily, so their perceived problem doesn't exist. Or it's their own fault for being "picky". (Which also implies that men are approaching them regularly.) So women can't really discuss their difficulties in finding a relationship. We had one popular spokesperson for that problem, but she doesn't post much anymore.
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Actually, JJS was right on the money.
Yes, you do. You see that here on C-D, too. Wow, bitter, much?
Wrong again. But somehow, I doubt you care. Oh well. :/
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Actually, they do, but they get overwhelmed and drowned out by men denying their problem exists.
I don't recall any posts of this nature. Could you provide examples or links? Are you sure you're not confusing C-D with some other forum? We don't even have that many posters old enough to talk about their "heyday".
Or there is just a lot of misinformation being spewed by people with very little real world relationship experience such as yourself. They sit on the sidelines hating on men and stirring up gender wars while spouting ignorance. Talk about bitter.
The honorable thing to do is quote accurately or don't put them up at all.
Sorry, those quotes are classic. And they do sum up a lot of the posts here.
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. I think it's not the men in question... but I think it's something about that age and a combination of introverted personality because I know for a fact I am not the only woman who had (has) this problem. none of my friends had men falling at their feet either.
