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Old 12-09-2007, 10:35 PM
 
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Default Watching porn with your partner

My husband recently admitted to me that he occasionally likes watching porn. Did any of you tell this to your spouse, how were their reactions, or if you didn't, do you like watching porn despite having "regular" sex (3-4 times a weak )?

 
Old 12-10-2007, 06:36 AM
 
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My husband knew I had watched some in my past but that it did nothing for me. I would rather be with my partner than watching people on a screen having sex! I also think that it leads many people into alot of other situations, that may not be healthy or can destroy the relationship that they have now!
I have regular sex at least 5 times a week and I caught my husband masturbating on a porn site because I had been ill for a week!
Is this acceptable? I know that I would never have done that! He said he did it that way because he did not want to bother me anymore because he knew i was ill and he was extremely horny!
 
Old 12-10-2007, 06:45 AM
 
Location: Virginia
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My husband recently admitted to me that he occasionally likes watching porn. Did any of you tell this to your spouse, how were their reactions, or if you didn't, do you like watching porn despite having "regular" sex (3-4 times a weak )?
My wife expressed an interest in watching it with me..... I stress expressed an interest and do not mean to say she actually followed through with it or anything.

As far as part two, how would I know if I'm not having sex 3-4 times a week in the first place???
 
Old 12-10-2007, 06:49 AM
 
Location: huh?
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i just dont see a true need for porn in a relationship. i worry that it could get out of hand somehow.
 
Old 12-10-2007, 06:59 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
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me too nicolepsy...I believe marriage should be between two people and should be loving..porn is the exact opposite of what marriage is all bout.
 
Old 12-10-2007, 06:59 AM
 
Location: Too far from the beach, NJ
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Porn is no big deal. My partner watches it, we've watched it together sometimes, it's purely entertainment. I would be worried if he was going online meeting/watching/exchanging pics with women. But he's not. Porn? Eh. Whatever. I trust him, that's the most important thing.

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Old 12-10-2007, 07:05 AM
 
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
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Porn leaves me cold. I have no interest in it whatsoever. But what I'm wondering is this: What is the rest of the relationship like? How are you treated outside of this issue? Also, how "occasional" is his interest? It could be that this is only the tip of the iceberg (meaning he could be addicted), or it really may be occasional.

I look at things on a scale. If someone has a need to watch porn every single day, or turns to it at the least provocation, then they have a problem. If it's every three months or so, that's not necessarily a problem (although I still wouldn't be too comfortable).

Also, Purplerosedar, I'd think twice before having children with a man who turned to porn because I was sick for only five days! I was married to a man like that, and he ended up molesting our daughter. When his girlfriend (after we were divorced) was having serious health problems due to diabetes, he joked about going to the Mustang Ranch in rural Nevada to get some "relief". That's what a sick, twisted loser he was - and still is. I'm not saying your husband is like that, but it's something to keep in mind. When I look back, there were indeed signs that my ex was bent that way, but I chose to ignore them. My daughter was the one who suffered as a result.
 
Old 12-10-2007, 07:10 AM
 
Location: Pinal County, Arizona
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My wife expressed an interest in watching porn many years ago -

One night, while strolling past some little shops, we came upon an "adult theatre" that said they rented adult videos - she makes a quick right turn - strolls into the theatre - goes up to this REALLY BIG, and ugly dude at the counter and asks - "Do you have any films with a plot!" - this guy looks back at her and says "Lady - they all have one plot!" -

I almost fell down laughing so hard -

Anyway, the only porn movies we watched were "Deep Throat" and "Behind the Green Door"

Both had plots
 
Old 12-10-2007, 07:35 AM
 
Location: in a house
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Porn leaves me cold. I have no interest in it whatsoever. But what I'm wondering is this: What is the rest of the relationship like? How are you treated outside of this issue? Also, how "occasional" is his interest? It could be that this is only the tip of the iceberg (meaning he could be addicted), or it really may be occasional.

I look at things on a scale. If someone has a need to watch porn every single day, or turns to it at the least provocation, then they have a problem. If it's every three months or so, that's not necessarily a problem (although I still wouldn't be too comfortable).

Also, Purplerosedar, I'd think twice before having children with a man who turned to porn because I was sick for only five days! I was married to a man like that, and he ended up molesting our daughter. When his girlfriend (after we were divorced) was having serious health problems due to diabetes, he joked about going to the Mustang Ranch in rural Nevada to get some "relief". That's what a sick, twisted loser he was - and still is. I'm not saying your husband is like that, but it's something to keep in mind. When I look back, there were indeed signs that my ex was bent that way, but I chose to ignore them. My daughter was the one who suffered as a result.
Oh my gosh Sandy. I am so sorry to hear about what you and your daughter went through with that terrible person. Is she ok today?
 
Old 12-10-2007, 07:38 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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Porn leaves me cold. I have no interest in it whatsoever. But what I'm wondering is this: What is the rest of the relationship like? How are you treated outside of this issue? Also, how "occasional" is his interest? It could be that this is only the tip of the iceberg (meaning he could be addicted), or it really may be occasional.

I look at things on a scale. If someone has a need to watch porn every single day, or turns to it at the least provocation, then they have a problem. If it's every three months or so, that's not necessarily a problem (although I still wouldn't be too comfortable).

Also, Purplerosedar, I'd think twice before having children with a man who turned to porn because I was sick for only five days! I was married to a man like that, and he ended up molesting our daughter. When his girlfriend (after we were divorced) was having serious health problems due to diabetes, he joked about going to the Mustang Ranch in rural Nevada to get some "relief". That's what a sick, twisted loser he was - and still is. I'm not saying your husband is like that, but it's something to keep in mind. When I look back, there were indeed signs that my ex was bent that way, but I chose to ignore them. My daughter was the one who suffered as a result.
Sandy, I'm so sorry to hear that! Why isn't this creep in jail? I hope your daughter is doing ok!
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