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I had a good relationship with my boyfriend for two years. He is 11 years older than I. I am 45 and he is 56. Well, he is sweet, funny, handsome, smart, financially well off.
Neither one of us had ever been married or had kids. We both were in school and spent time in our careers. We talked marriage. I was in love and wanted to marry him. I lost my job. I moved to a warmer climate, Florida, and started working from home full time, which was always a dream of mine. He promised me he would follow me and meet me here. We had some long distance misunderstandings and we ended things. He thought I was not faithful and no longer waiting for him, not true at all.
He got angry. He started acting like a mid life crisis was going on, and started dating another "girl."
I let him go. He would contact me occasionally and he was not with the same girl for long. I wasn't even angry with him, because I was glad to know where I stood.
Recently I messaged him on Linked In. We've been connected there for more than three years. His marital status showed single.
Then, through mutual friends, I saw a photo of him in a tux with a woman who is 25 years younger than he, her in a black evening gown. She posted the photo on a social media site, and she now has his last name, with people commenting and congratulating her. And no, I doubt she is his adopted daughter.
I feel so embarrassed that I messaged him, not knowing he was married. I am concerned that I now look like the stalker or the other woman. He never replied back to me. I removed him from my contact list. I deleted his numbers and will never contact him again. I feel betrayed in some way that he didn't think enough of me to tell me himself.
I find his behavior so bizarre. 25 year age difference? Maybe he wants kids and he didn't think I was young enough anymore.
Well, when I remarried, I did not feel obligated to notify my ex wife or others I dated. Some of their reactions were priceless. It shouldn't really be surprising, considering you are his ex.
He was with you, an 11 year age difference, which many people feel is too much. Then he couldn't keep a gf for a while. Now he is acting out some kind of immortality or incest fantasy.
Just let it go. His issues are no longer your problem.
Well, when I remarried, I did not feel obligated to notify my ex wife or others I dated. Some of their reactions were priceless. It shouldn't really be surprising, considering you are his ex.
Really.
No reason he needs to tell you... or anyone else no longer in his life.
Original Poster: Your ex is not obligated to tell you anything about his current life. Besides who cares, his life, you are no longer in it, none of your business.
Stay off of social media.
It appears we are having a rash of "my ex got......" threads today.
I had a good relationship with my boyfriend for two years. He is 11 years older than I. I am 45 and he is 56. Well, he is sweet, funny, handsome, smart, financially well off.
Neither one of us had ever been married or had kids. We both were in school and spent time in our careers. We talked marriage. I was in love and wanted to marry him. I lost my job. I moved to a warmer climate, Florida, and started working from home full time, which was always a dream of mine. He promised me he would follow me and meet me here. We had some long distance misunderstandings and we ended things. He thought I was not faithful and no longer waiting for him, not true at all.
He got angry. He started acting like a mid life crisis was going on, and started dating another "girl."
I let him go. He would contact me occasionally and he was not with the same girl for long. I wasn't even angry with him, because I was glad to know where I stood.
Recently I messaged him on Linked In. We've been connected there for more than three years. His marital status showed single.
Then, through mutual friends, I saw a photo of him in a tux with a woman who is 25 years younger than he, her in a black evening gown. She posted the photo on a social media site, and she now has his last name, with people commenting and congratulating her. And no, I doubt she is his adopted daughter.
I feel so embarrassed that I messaged him, not knowing he was married. I am concerned that I now look like the stalker or the other woman. He never replied back to me. I removed him from my contact list. I deleted his numbers and will never contact him again. I feel betrayed in some way that he didn't think enough of me to tell me himself.
I find his behavior so bizarre. 25 year age difference? Maybe he wants kids and he didn't think I was young enough anymore.
And? He married a younger women, get over it. And I'm calling B.S. on this whole post, LinkedIn doesn't list people's marital status.
Original Poster: Your ex is not obligated to tell you anything about his current life. Besides who cares, his life, you are no longer in it, none of your business.
Stay off of social media.
It appears we are having a rash of "my ex got......" threads today.
Part of the problem is one or both can't leave the past in the past. They are unwilling to leave well enough alone.
Guess what. People break up all the time, whether it is a divorce, or the end of a long term relationship. Now here is a new flash, people move on. If that bothers you, get over it.
Part of the problem is one or both can't leave the past in the past. They are unwilling to leave well enough alone.
Guess what. People break up all the time, whether it is a divorce, or the end of a long term relationship. Now here is a new flash, people move on. If that bothers you, get over it.
Good advice. You are correct. And I actually took steps to block his new wife on my social media site, so I could no longer see any of the postings. And vice versa.
I have never understood the whole concept of keeping in touch with an ex. To me ex means no more so there is no need to keep in touch unless there are official matters involved such as children or division of property or other official issues.
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