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This is a great suggestion. Dudes that want to masquerade as the mentor do not like interference from large guys with attitudes. It totally cramps their style.
I don't actually have a large male friend, and even so he is pretty large and grew up in downtown oakland, grew up fending for himself and sisters, army for six years so it would be tough to find someone who could take him. He has no problem exercising his ego against something or someone that challenges him....
I don't actually have a large male friend, and even so he is pretty large and grew up in downtown oakland, grew up fending for himself and sisters, army for six years so it would be tough to find someone who could take him. He has no problem exercising his ego against something or someone that challenges him....
What I have learned in my long life (I'm soon to be 56) is a female can always be the more bad a$$ dog against some male with aspirations to be king. I grew up in the barrio in San Diego. Learned how to pack a 'tude at an early age.
But, if you don't feel like that might work, GTFO. Do what Nila suggests. Shelters are just that - shelters to protect you.
Oh dear I feel for you! I am a survivor of abusive relationships and I strongly recommend that you plan your leave carefully and safely. Please, please take the advice of going through a shelter. Do not discuss or confront him with your plans. The most dangerous time for a woman is leaving. You are in an abusive relationship, maybe he hasn't physically abused you, but it may escalate when he feels he is losing control over you. Please be really careful. Best of luck to you, you're in my prayers.
I am giving my 2 cents worth as retired law enforcement, someone who at 12 was on the streets of NYC, as a man and father. You are being used and played and the first mistake was being played into the immediate move in with a total stranger. Forget the stars crap, you let a total stranger into your home and total stranger near your toddler, which I'm assuming your being with him 1.5 yr, your 3 yr old, not his.
Number one should be the safety and well being of your daughter! I'll be damned if any woman I'm just getting to know is getting near my son, until time has passed. You have allowed yourself to be taken advantage of and need to exit this dangerous relationship immediately for your and your child's safety.
If it's your apartment or your initial place, you need to have him out NOW. And if you do this on your own, just as with all the lame excuses he's given to his infidelity and emotional abuses, you will not succeed. You need the help from a woman's shelter or group. But having said that let me tell you, shelters like to talk women into "stretching" the truth and lying and they want them to get full PFA's, Protection From Abuse orders, and they don't tell them that for every one they convince a woman to fill out as the male being a monster, they get a federal grant of $15-18K, for each one. Be honest, don't lie, you need protection for your child and you and him OUT. As mentioned, change ALL passwords, pins, etc to different ones for each and not something he has already figured out like he has figured you out.
You need to look in the mirror and change your world immediately. And NEVER, never do that again for your own good and most importantly, your child's.
You're young and you have PLENTY of time to find, at a much slower pace, the right person, who won't control your life...Oh, you can put that down on the PFA, controlling.
You need to stop making excuses for yourself and him. Women's shelters are 24/7 or Domestic Abuse shelter's depending where you are.
Oh dear I feel for you! I am a survivor of abusive relationships and I strongly recommend that you plan your leave carefully and safely. Please, please take the advice of going through a shelter. Do not discuss or confront him with your plans. The most dangerous time for a woman is leaving. You are in an abusive relationship, maybe he hasn't physically abused you, but it may escalate when he feels he is losing control over you. Please be really careful. Best of luck to you, you're in my prayers.
Yes, I agree, PLEASE don't tell him or anyone who will leak to him your plans of leaving. Shelter's can put you somewhere undisclosed for you and your child.
A Shelter will help remove you and your child immediately with Sheriff escort.
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