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You can choose to go the analytical route and leave all the emotions out of it ... Instead of paying for the phone bill directly, why not just pay a set amount each month?
That way, noone has to worry about who pays how much of whose bills.
You can choose to go the analytical route and leave all the emotions out of it ... Instead of paying for the phone bill directly, why not just pay a set amount each month?
That way, noone has to worry about who pays how much of whose bills.
I think that's a good idea... I am going to try and go for that...
Does your wife work? Does she contribute anything to the household financially? If she does, SHE can pay for her siblings phone bills. If she doesn't, I think she should compromise and discuss this with, wait for it, the breadwinner. You are being very (VERY) generous...but from the sound of it, she sounds like a shrew. Keeping score about how you spend money on your family so that automatically means you should for hers? I don't understand the logic at all.
She doesn't think she is selfish because I give out alot of money to my siblings and parents... she says this is a way of evening things out... I am fine with it, whatever... her sister disrespected me and I told her to her face that under my roof, I make the rules, not her... and then she pushed back and I told her, she was no longer welcome in my home... I want absolutely nothing to do with her... I need an argument to win over my wife with so I don't end up paying her sister's cellphone bill... heck, I even be willing to pay her brother's cellphone bill...
I don't think you should be paying for all these people's cellphone bill. People always expect more.
I don't think you really need an "argument" to win her over, you just need to set some boundaries. e.g. everybody is responsible for their own cell phone bills. I am responsible for grocery, utility bill, etc.
The whole scenario has disaster written all over it. A wife who doesn't particularly get along with her family has them coming down to live with her and expects her husband to pay for the bills. Not just the parents cellphone but her siblings as well. Sounds like a hot mess waiting to happen.
in laws living with you, is almost NEVER a good idea. prepare yourself for alot of change, and fights.
as far as bills go. If I were you, I would calculate how much child care is in your area x number of kids. Give them that money first day of month. Let them decide how to use it.
The concept of paying their bills is not a good idea. what if the sister in law buy something and adds a new bill to the list! u have to pay that new bill too?? not right!
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