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The house is big enough to accommodate everyone... her mother and father likes me and are not the interfering type... I don't really see issues... it may seem petty but it is my principle, I won't budge on that... I live in the US... I understand how people might think its a disaster but honestly, all I do is work, go home, go out, etc... I don't really care one way or another... its only when people disrespect me that I have an issue with... I do not forgive and I do not forget...
People always expect more. If you don't set boundaries you are giving
yourself away. With boundaries you only give what you want which means you can
afford to be generous to more people over a longer period of time
People always expect more. If you don't set boundaries you are giving
yourself away. With boundaries you only give what you want which means you can
afford to be generous to more people over a longer period of time
Thanks, I will try to set some boundaries... I have agreed to pay their bills, provide a stipend, and provide for all grocery purchases... I was thinking of adding them to my credit card but that may lead to abuse down the line... I hope my wife appreciates what I am doing, probably not....
Thanks, I will try to set some boundaries... I have agreed to pay their bills, provide a stipend, and provide for all grocery purchases... I was thinking of adding them to my credit card but that may lead to abuse down the line... I hope my wife appreciates what I am doing, probably not....
Thanks, I will try to set some boundaries... I have agreed to pay their bills, provide a stipend, and provide for all grocery purchases... I was thinking of adding them to my credit card but that may lead to abuse down the line... I hope my wife appreciates what I am doing, probably not....
What kind of boundaries are those? Pay their bills? Their bills are anything they may owe. That's as undefined as you can get.
In life one needs to pick their battles. When marriage/family is involved, one has to be very careful about choosing those battles.
Put the in-laws on your family plan. Add the sister and brother in law if their is no other way out. With a family plan, it won't cost you a hundred bucks a month. That is a very small price to pay to keep your wife happy.
Keep track of what you spend...and some day, somewhere, when you least expect it.....you will have a chance to "get even". For now, it is not worth it to destroy something which is so dear to you...your marriage...over a pittance (even though it really sucks to be carrying a freeloader).
Is there anything I can use to strengthen my argument?
Action.
Pay the cellphone bill but then don't pay your water and electric bill for your house and then when the water and electric is shut off see how that goes down with your wife.
[offsetting costs]
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