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I forgot to mention that I always have to drive to see him. We live about 25 miles apart. I don't mind sometimes but...
And, although I'm not materialistic AT ALL, he's never bought me even a birthday card. I guess it's just a bunch of tiny things that add up. But I don't want to be demanding, that's why I'm posting to get others' views.
Thanks for all the responses so far!
Mia, when you get there, does he take you out or do you guys stay in and basically just hang out and have sex? From what you are saying, and I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds as if he's "just not that into you" ... but he allows you to come over so he can have sex with you.
Don't you think you should require more for yourself? Don't you think you deserve that? Don't make excuses -- make a list of what you need, what you want, and what are deal-breakers in a relationship. Then, find someone who meets that criteria and feels that he is blessed to get to spend time with you.
Thank you, mghow. You'd make a fantastic psychologist. I do have self esteem issues, although I don't understand why. My parents were awesome, always telling me how great I was. But yeah, I will purchase that book. So odd: I know deep down I deserve better and that it's a waste of time to try changing someone. But I'm guilty of it
You only mentioned the 'telling'' but not the 'showing'.
You could read a few sample paragraphs of the book before just to make sure. Be warned, quite a few people who read it said it was very tough and one reviewer said ''I would have given it a 5/5 if it wasn't such a slap in the face' lol. Looking within and dealing with truth is always hard. Expect to feel uncomfortable at what you initially discover.
We do go out sometimes, but I always drive to his house. Cannot believe I basically have done all the work and he's taken me for granted all this time. Terrible. Thanks for all the pep talks. This forum really has helped. Gosh! He's such an ass!
I've been feeling uncomfortable since I started reading these responses, haha! So embarrassing. So this book should be good. I NEED to be slapped anyway.
Mia, when you get there, does he take you out or do you guys stay in and basically just hang out and have sex? From what you are saying, and I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds as if he's "just not that into you" ... but he allows you to come over so he can have sex with you.
Don't you think you should require more for yourself? Don't you think you deserve that? Don't make excuses -- make a list of what you need, what you want, and what are deal-breakers in a relationship. Then, find someone who meets that criteria and feels that he is blessed to get to spend time with you.
Best of luck.
Thank you! I was on FB last night and noticed he posted some status updates, but I didn't read them. Believe me, that's a step in the right direction for me. I'm serious this time. Enough is enough. There's this other guy who has been asking me out but I kept turning him down due to my love of being tortured by this guy. Lol!!
I'm going to be open to other, um, adventures now. No rebound romances, though. First things first. Self-improvement.
Thank you! I was on FB last night and noticed he posted some status updates, but I didn't read them. Believe me, that's a step in the right direction for me. I'm serious this time. Enough is enough. There's this other guy who has been asking me out but I kept turning him down due to my love of being tortured by this guy. Lol!!
I'm going to be open to other, um, adventures now. No rebound romances, though. First things first. Self-improvement.
You might want to check out 'The No Contact Rule Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue', one of her other books while you're at it.
Alright, sounds good. Man! Barnes & Noble's gonna either ask me if I've moved in or send me a thank you card for buying so many books
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