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why do women say their not about looks, and that looks dont mean much. but when you got outside and see them, their boyfriends are not ugly or even average? i dont get it, i thought they were about personality ?
I haven't heard women say looks don't matter at all. I've only heard them say looks are not enough.
Rare exceptions, personality alone isn't going to land you someone pretty. Got to bring something to the table that women want, and it isn't just personality.
"He treats me nice but I'm not that attracted to him" is a recipe for resentment and a setup for a failed relationship.
Why should they date ugly guys if they don't have to? Attractive guys can have nice personalities too.
The quoted is a better summary of what I was going to try and post, but I'll try anyway
Posts like the OP assume that their "competition" (so to speak) is more one-dimensional than they often are. They'll see a woman with an attractive guy, write the guy off as being dumb/broke/an ass/disloyal/etc, and assume that she's choosing his physical attraction in spite of those other traits. In their mind, they'll view themselves as having positive personal qualities that are going unnoticed, while in reality, there are tons of guys out there with those same qualities AND are good looking.
Being nice, loyal, caring, etc. by itself is simply not enough, contrary to what we often hear. Because for every guy that possesses those characteristics, there's 10 others that have them AND can speak a foreign language. Or play the guitar. Or something else that sets them apart from people that would rather sit back and complain.
Why are you surprised? Looks are important to women as well,if you dont pass the physical threshold for the women it doesnt matter how great your other traits are you wont get your foot in the door
Beinh physically attratcive to women makes things 100x easier in the attraction game
Pretty women say their not shallow, but i hardly see them with ugly guys.?
Maybe the guys are good looking and very, very, poor? This is another way to show that the woman is not shallow. Maybe the guys are also poor with very small pee pees as well. Wouldn't this prove that the woman is not shallow as well?
Why are you surprised? Looks are important to women as well,if you dont pass the physical threshold for the women it doesnt matter how great your other traits are you wont get your foot in the door
Beinh physically attratcive to women makes things 100x easier in the attraction game
Yes, this notion that only men are allowed to value physical attractiveness is silly. Maybe back in the old days where women relied on men to financially support them, they might not have cared if the man was unattractive, but this is 2014. No one is going to choose you based on personality alone if they have other options.
why do women say their not about looks, and that looks dont mean much. but when you got outside and see them, their boyfriends are not ugly or even average? i dont get it, i thought they were about personality ?
...Just no.
But you see what you see in your area. It really isn't that simple. I see pretty women with men whom I would consider, "ugly". But maybe she is actually attracted to him. Or maybe he has a good personality...
...Is this really a serious post I'm replying too.
why do women say their not about looks, and that looks dont mean much. but when you got outside and see them, their boyfriends are not ugly or even average? i dont get it, i thought they were about personality ?
If you honestly don't regularly see attractive women with less attractive men, you're not paying attention. I see it all the time. I could introduce my girlfriend and myself to you as exhibit A.
Yes, this notion that only men are allowed to value physical attractiveness is silly. Maybe back in the old days where women relied on men to financially support them, they might not have cared if the man was unattractive, but this is 2014. No one is going to choose you based on personality alone if they have other options.
Yeah the whole women dont care that much about looks or arent that visual thing is laughable..Looks are extremly improtant to women, the ones who say they dont care about looks are usually a bit disengenious too because they probably cant attract a really good looking guy
Most people are as shallow as their options the less options and people you can attract the less shallow you can be
why do women say their not about looks, and that looks dont mean much. but when you got outside and see them, their boyfriends are not ugly or even average? i dont get it, i thought they were about personality ?
Why is it with some "ugly" guys nothing will do but a pretty woman? Are they trying to pull some vicarious self-esteem from dating a good looking woman? Maybe they need to examine their motives before they slam pretty women for not wanting to date them. And as far as personality goes, some guys who are below average in the looks department have quite a bit of emotional baggage to deal with and it probably comes out in their personalities, too. I don't wholeheartedly embrace the popular belief that if a man or woman is plain they have this golden heart and soul. Some (plenty of them) are bitter, insecure and can be down right mean out of those tings.
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