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Your ex-girlfriend's character seems to be more on the up and up than your own. Is this the absolute best you can do, bad mouth your ex as an excuse? Pathetic.
I wonder if the father wanted the baby and the mother didn't? Could the father force the mother to have the child?
I can't bet all you women would say it's her body its her choice and father doesn't have the final say.
Well, same should apply for the, OP. He conveyed very clearly he did not want to have this child, but she instead, went along with the birth knowing he may never be part of the kids life and possibly never get financial support. It's the choice she made.
Except that he had unprotected sex, so if he wanted to be clear about not having a child, he would have insisted on protection. He didn't take ANY precautions against fathering a child.
And unfortunately for men, women are the ones that carry a pregnancy, so men don't have any control over that part of it.
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I'd leave you and never look back
Same here. It was such a selfish, cowardly way of dealing with the issue that I would completely lose all respect for him.
Please don't speak like I'm the worst person in the world, I'm not a bad guy. I just did what I thought was best at the time but I'm feeling a bit regretful.
Except that he had unprotected sex, so if he wanted to be clear about not having a child, he would have insisted on protection. He didn't take ANY precautions against fathering a child.
And unfortunately for men, women are the ones that carry a pregnancy, so men don't have any control over that part of it.
Yes, it was my fault I didn't use a condom but everyone makes a mistake in their lives, don't you think?
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Same here. It was such a selfish, cowardly way of dealing with the issue that I would completely lose all respect for him.
I hope my gf is more moderate and doesn't think the same way.
I've also been thinking about telling this to my parents. If I told her this secret it doesn't make much sense to keep it from my parents.
Yes, it was my fault I didn't use a condom but everyone makes a mistake in their lives, don't you think?
Having sex without a condom or birth control when you don't want a child is not a mistake...it's a choice. Unfortunately for you, your little head was doing all the thinking.
And my reply was to the poster claiming it should also be "his body, his choice" in that you didn't want this child and therefore shouldn't be responsible for it. Doesn't work that way. Your choice can only be made when you come to that crossroad...should you stick your penis in her or not. You get one opportunity to make a choice, that's it.
I thought I was far too young to be having any children at the time. I certainly never intended to have one before I was 30.
So is that your justification for running away from your responsibilities? It doesn't seem like you have grown or learned much over the last 5 years.
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oh NOW it's YOUR child!!
