Suffer briefly because of the truth? or Suffer forever because of the lie? (love, kids)

[Travelling fella]

Have you ever been with someone you didn't love as your partner?

What if you found true love suddenly and this encounter would make you realize a painful truth that you were avoiding, what would you do?

Live a lie forever and suffer?

or be faithful to truth even if it hurts you or your partner for a brief time?

Note to avoid confusions, this deals with pure feelings only, no physical attraction.

If it's physical attraction it can't be true love (imho)

[nicolepsy]

you make it sound so black and white and there is a lot of grey that needs to be considered.

[Travelling fella]

Originally Posted by nicolepsy

you make it sound so black and white and there is a lot of grey that needs to be considered.

pure feelings are white as heaven

[pirate girl]

Ultimately, Be true to yourself------------------ but don't make any rash or knee jerk decisions.

And don't go from the frying pan to the fire if you know what I mean.

[GreenMachine]

I've never been with someone I didn't love as a partner. I am very independent and am not afraid to be alone. I would rather be alone than live a lie.

[Travelling fella]

Originally Posted by GreenMachine

I've never been with someone I didn't love as a partner. I am very independent and am not afraid to be alone. I would rather be alone than live a lie.

wise words you deserve rep

[Marylandkitten]

Honestly.. who's going to choose "Live a lie forever" Can I be annoying and throw the poll?

If you have a sincere question behind the nature of this post, that's one thing. Is this about leaving a long time spouse for someone else? While it sucks for both of the parties involved, and I want to slap you on the wrists and chastise for making promises you can't keep ~ it's a mute point. Overall, your doing more harm than good by staying in a relationship that you are not committed to. Because you're blocking any chance of true happiness for not only you in finding someone else, but for her as well!

If you're just asking for everyone's opinion.. they will tell you that you need to take care of yourself. And if you're not happy, you need to work on it. That doesn't mean throw caution to the wind and walk on people to get where you need to. If you are involved with someone you once loved, or that possibly still loves you, you need to handle this situation with care. But living a lie forever, even if just for a moment, is disrespectful to her, and casts a rather tainted shadow on any happiness you would attempt at portraying. And she will feel that, regardless of whether you come clean with her or not.

[Pragmaniac]

Kids involved?

[nicolepsy]

Originally Posted by Pragmaniac

Kids involved?

an example of grey!

[Marylandkitten]

Okay I don't know who voted live in a lie forever.. but it wasn't me!!

I was just kidding! Lol