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I have been married twice. When things started to go badly, the LAST thing I wanted was another man to worry about. So NO, I have never had an affair, nor would I.
Women tend to associate sex with a lot more emotional backing then men do.... so when men cheat in a sense, they're letting their "second head" get the better of them; whereas when women cheat, it's particularly leading to an attachment to the other person, and another relationship, rather than just an affair, or a roll in the hay.
Know what I mean?
I know more women, that if they had an affair, they were at the end of their marriage, and I know more men, that admitted it was clearly a sexual distraction that was a mishap on their part, a ... lack of conscience, so to speak.
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I totally agree with what you posted. Most women having an affair in a relatively long term marriage have mentally 'checked out' and are hoping the affair will take them out of the marriage. Men are SO not like that.
Men, be ready for a divorce if you find your wife having an affair. I know there are some loopy women out there who have no moral compass and have serial adulterous affairs...but this is a small minority. Once your wife starts sleeping with someone else, you have lost her (usually). Then it's on to marriage counseling (which is really divorce counseling) and then she is attached to the new fellow and you really have little consequence to her. Hey, it's a girl thing. I've seen it a hundred times. The moral of this story is that if you are taking your wife for granted, being demeaning, etc. there is a real chance that she will finally have enough of that and meet someone who treats her well. You'd be surprised how often this happens. The men are usually speechless and clueless as they are sleeping in their new, crappy apartment.
A new study from AOL was released today. It states that 1 in 3 married women with kids has had or currently is having an affair. I have not and would not, but I have thought about it.
The moral of this story is that if you are taking your wife for granted, being demeaning, etc. there is a real chance that she will finally have enough of that and meet someone who treats her well. You'd be surprised how often this happens. The men are usually speechless and clueless as they are sleeping in their new, crappy apartment.
Well, there are plenty of women who stay for financial reasons, but no money has ever stopped me from getting out when it's no longer worth staying... To be fair, it's easier when you don't have kids, though. I also don't believe in getting out for somebody else. Just generally not a fan of cheating... and too lazy as I said... takes too much energy to lie and cover for it.
Oh, it does take energy! Imagine all the plans you have to make... secret calls... secret disappearances... wondering what excuses to come up with... I'm getting exhausted just typing it! That's a full-time job!
Oh, it does take energy! Imagine all the plans you have to make... secret calls... secret disappearances... wondering what excuses to come up with... I'm getting exhausted just typing it! That's a full-time job!
I know.
Still...sometimes it's worth it, if it means taking a person out of a place they don't belong.
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