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I live vicariously through two friends who do OLD.
Never a fan of guys who start with mentioning looks. And "want to meet?" as the opening salvo is exactly code for hookup.
I also would not be two eager about either one. The first one sounds desperate.
I don't think the bolded is true. When I dated online, I wanted to meet right away. I mean, a few emails/chats is fine, but I've experienced a lot of women online who just want to chat and email back and forth.
I wasn't dating online to stare at a screen and chat, I was doing it to meet women. If they didn't want to meet, I figured they weren't interested enough or were just doing OLD for an ego boost.
Why do women think everything is "code for a hookup"?
I'd give both guys a chance actually. I really have a hard time telling what a person is like though "chat" and "messages." I just like to meet them and then let the chips fall where they will.
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Originally Posted by VinceShamWow
I don't think the bolded is true. When I dated online, I wanted to meet right away. I mean, a few emails/chats is fine, but I've experienced a lot of women online who just want to chat and email back and forth.
I wasn't dating online to stare at a screen and chat, I was doing it to meet women. If they didn't want to meet, I figured they weren't interested enough or were just doing OLD for an ego boost.
Why do women think everything is "code for a hookup"?
I am with you on this one. I don't online date anymore, but when I did, I just wanted to meet the men, in person. I saw OLD as a way to find someone else single and arrange a meeting. The guys who wanted to spend weeks on end "chatting" in text or even making phone calls drove me nuts. After a few weeks of that, I just get the feeling they really don't want to meet and I lose interest. I don't know why they did it (ego boost, shy, lied about something major in their profile... I have no idea). My sentiment on it was "I am not looking for a penpal."
I'd say maybe meet with both, but since you're iffy don't make it a "real" date. Just meet for coffee, a smoothie, or whatever & chat for a short time, you know just a meet & greet. Then you can decide how you want to proceed from there.
Guy #1 Appropriately assertive. Yes he led with a compliment about prettiness, but I think that's fairly normal for a guy who is interested in a woman. I would prefer that I am asked a question about what I would like to do instead of a suggestion from him, though.
At least Guy #2 didn't say, "Want to meet (hook) up?" as Guy #2 did, and he's just coming off a little too hunter-ish, I just don't like that approach. The initial months of getting to know a guy I don't want to see or hear ANYTHING but "gentleman" from him.
Am I the only who finds this completely irrelevant?
Whenever I am interested in a guy this NEVER crosses my mind.
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