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A big part of marriage is growing old together. As attractive as you might be in your 20s and 30s, you won't look as good when you reach 50 or 60. Neither will your partner. So hopefully your relationship wasn't just built on physical attraction. But what happens when one of you ages faster than the other? Maybe you got sick, maybe you went through a stressful event, or maybe you just didn't take proper care of yourself. The reason I bring this up is because of a post I was reading on another forum where someone said women age faster than men. Personally, I don't believe that. But it did raise the issue of two people aging at different rates and how each of them copes with the growing disparity. I've seen men and women both get jealous and insecure because their significant other looked younger than them. The men might become more controlling. The women might sabotage their husbands' efforts to look young. How do you think you would react if you looked at your partner and saw someone who appeared 10, even 20 years older than you, but you were actually the same age?
If I actually loved him, I don't think I would care, because I am assuming his personality was attractive enough to draw me in, so even if the looks faded, as long as he kept that personality I loved, I may be fine with it.
And who knows, maybe I would find his older look sexier lol you never know. Some people--though it may be rare--look better with age before they start to go down in maybe their 60s or 70s.
This just sounds like something people who have never been married would think, people who don't know what marriage really means. The actual vows never mention hotness.
I mean, when I was 14 I SWORE I would never walk around in front of my future husband without makeup on because, well, I looked ugly.
In todays society people are very focused on the external rather than the internal (the heart) I look very young for my age, But If my better half was still around, I would Love Him unconditionally, he was 20 years older than I, but he was the most sexiest and handsome man I ever met, his charisma, intelligence, and those green eyes would make me so vulnerable! Those silver streaks flowing through his hair were extraordinaire, We believed in holding hands, slow dancing with candlelight and soft music, just because we loved one another that much. He would be in his early 70's about now! When two people sincerely love one another, their looks never change, because their love compliments each other wonderfully! Interesting and delightful topic!!
This just sounds like something people who have never been married would think, people who don't know what marriage really means. The actual vows never mention hotness.
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
I mean, when I was 14 I SWORE I would never walk around in front of my future husband without makeup on because, well, I looked ugly.
Married couples who have spent decades growing their marriage and their relationship generally are not jealous of each other's "looks" or judgemental towards each other's relative attractiveness. When you live your life with someone building a life together over decades, the relative importance of that stuff fades way into the background.
But growing old is simply not about what someone looks like externally though. It is about what rate people experience things like arthritis, heart disease etc. At some point those sorts of things have more of an effect on how a couple grows old together than the external.
But I think physical aging is really variable. My husband and his siblings are all aging the same way. It is subtle, but their faces are becoming thinner...I'm not sure why this would be perceived differently for his sisters than it would be for the guys. Any amount of physical exercise my husband might do won't change how his face ages.
I don't know very many people where they are the same age but one looks 10 or 20 years younger, unless one of the parties really is not taking care of themselves, or one is prematurely grey.
Married couples who have spent decades growing their marriage and their relationship generally are not jealous of each other's "looks" or judgemental towards each other's relative attractiveness. When you live your life with someone building a life together over decades, the relative importance of that stuff fades way into the background.
Hmmm I'm guessing you've never actually been in love.....
First off, I know couples who lasted 20+ years with significant age differences.
Looks fading didn't matter.
Good times, bad times, they stuck together--
Because love transcends the ego.
Love transcends age, time, space & reality.
True love, that is
Hmmm I'm guessing you've never actually been in love.....
First off, I know couples who lasted 20+ years with significant age differences.
Looks fading didn't matter.
Good times, bad times, they stuck together--
Because love transcends the ego.
Love transcends age, time, space & reality.
True love, that is
Well said.
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