Why is it so difficult for a woman to give me a clear answer to this question? (sleeping, different)
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I guess I just got lucky, when I was dating. Girl always had a more helpful/more accurate answer than "any time" for me.
But if I got an "any time", I'd be a smart ass and call at 2:30 AM.
I think I understand, they don't want to say a certain time period because it's no guarantee that she will be available because she is talking to more than one person. So she rather just say anytime for now until she talks to me and makes a connection over the phone.
I would probably answer the same way if I was single and had my same jobs and interests. There are going to be times I'm working and I can talk for a while and there will be times I'm not at work and I definitely can't talk.
I'm not interested in having a block of time set aside in which I feel obligated to answer my phone.
After I get their phone number I ask what is a "good time to call?" I am asking that question because they may work a different schedule than I do which can be 3pm to 11pm or have 2 jobs and go to school or volunteer in the evenings.
So rather than call and get the
1. Voicemail
or
2. "Can i give you a call back?
It would be nice to know what is the best time to call
Seems like every time I ask this question the answer I get is........."ANYTIME"?
You are overthinking this. Just call when you have time to chat and you are not multi-tasking.
I would probably answer the same way if I was single and had my same jobs and interests. There are going to be times I'm working and I can talk for a while and there will be times I'm not at work and I definitely can't talk.
I'm not interested in having a block of time set aside in which I feel obligated to answer my phone.
Good point. I feel the same way. Even when I'm "available" (not at work, not at a doctor's appointment, not at the movies, not hanging out with a friend) I'm not always available to answer the phone.
A few days ago, I was making pie crust and wasn't really at a good point to stop what I was doing and answer the phone. My mom called about 6 times in a row. I finally stopped what I was doing, washed my hands, and called her back, thinking it must be an emergency. It wasn't. She just figured I was around and wanted to talk, and assumed that I hadn't answered the phone the first time(s) because must have been in the bathroom or something.
You are overthinking this. Just call when you have time to chat and you are not multi-tasking.
Good answer ^ .
And, of course, be considerate and don't call late at night.
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"Anytime" is a strategically noncommittal non-answer that maximizes the power of the person being called, and maximally constrains the potential caller. It connotes both a largeness of character that in principle accommodates communication, well, any time – if it's sufficiently important; and a busy life, where no one moment is any less precious than another. Effectively it means, "Your attention is interesting, to a point; but not substantially so. I reserve judgment in how to communicate with you further, if at all".
To me personally, "any time" is vapid and annoying. It screams with invitation to test the full measure of the term. Why not intentionally call at 3 am, to prove the point that "any time" belies itself? Why not call five times in a row, and then not call for a month? Instead, I much prefer specifics: "I go to bed at 2 am, but prefer silence between midnight and 2. Best for me is 9 pm through midnight, when I'll make reasonable effort to answer your call. But please don't take offense if the call defaults to voicemail. If the subject is truly important, call again. Otherwise I shall return your call on the following morning".
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