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...I just can't deal with a relationship right now.
I'm curious as to what that means exactly.
You've been in a relationship with him. Not a societal norm one and one with a more heavy focus on sex than others, but a relationship nonetheless.
Who says you guys have to go out on crazy long elaborate dates that cut into his work day? Who says you have to do whatever it is that makes you unable to deal with a relationship right now? Why does the realization that you care for each other mean that something has to change? So what if you might say "i love you" on occasion now? So what if you call yourselves bf and gf? Your actions don't have to change.
I've been a big proponent of the FWB arrangement. It has usually worked for me in the past, and now after getting out of a serious relationship it seems like the perfect arrangement for me.
Meanwhile, a lot of you have stated that one always begins to develop deeper feelings, to which I have said "it doesn't have to be that way."
Well now you can all say I told you so, because this weekend I realized that I have developed feelings for my FWB; yes, the long hugger I discussed in a previous post.
I am such an idiot.
It happens to most people who posses basic human characteristics. It's normal and anyone who can just blatantly walk away from someone you have regular intimate relations with, is sub-human to some degree in my opinion.
But think of it this way, even if you kept a monkey around long enough, you will become attached to it. LOL.
Instead of going back and forth on whether FWB can ever work out, maybe we should decide whether it's entirely possible to separate emotion from sex. And the people who claim they can, are they perhaps just suppressing something?
Why do you assume that they are suppressing something?
You've been in a relationship with him. Not a societal norm one and one with a more heavy focus on sex than others, but a relationship nonetheless.
Who says you guys have to go out on crazy long elaborate dates that cut into his work day? Who says you have to do whatever it is that makes you unable to deal with a relationship right now? Why does the realization that you care for each other mean that something has to change? So what if you might say "i love you" on occasion now? So what if you call yourselves bf and gf? Your actions don't have to change.
You make valid points, and if I were watching our actions on some rom com, I'd be the first one to throw popcorn at the screen and yell "Oh for Chrissake, just be together!" But it isn't that simpe. I'm still dealing with the fallout from a LTR that just ended. I don't feel like it is fair to pull him further into that mess until my head is on straight.
Maybe he's just not showing it because he may think that YOU aren't into HIM? Talk to him--you won't know how he feels unless you do
And you're not an idiot. You're human. Sometimes our emotions get the best of us
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I still don't know what to do because I am an idiot.
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