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She's saying she will date everyone she will do, but she will not do everyone she will date. This is not that unusual, particularly for women. Why the confusion?
Correct. I've dated men who I didn't find sexually appealing, but I would never not be willing to date someone who I do find sexually appealing (unless there was like a serious problem with them).
I don't know. I think that is pretty unusual for women. There aren't too many women I've ever met that will date a man they know they wouldn't want to sleep with.
There is a difference between dating someone you know you wouldn't want to sleep with and dating someone without sleeping with them. For many people it is determined in the early stages of dating whether or not they want to sleep with someone. That means there will be some people they date without doing. Are you saying you've had sex with every woman you've been on a date with?
Yes everthing today is sexist, racist, misogynistic, homophobic, blah, blah, blah. People are no longer able to express themslevs without the P.C. police coming in.
Why don't you try giving specific reasons why my particular view is wrong instead of just going off on a generic rant against so-called "political correctness."
Correct. I've dated men who I didn't find sexually appealing, but I would never not be willing to date someone who I do find sexually appealing (unless there was like a serious problem with them).
See now, I couldn't date a man I didn't find "sexually appealing"--and with that I mean not that I want to sleep with them, but that I have to have an attraction to them.
I think I get what you're saying though; the "doable" factor comes after the "dateable" factor. Is that what you mean?
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There is a difference between dating someone you know you wouldn't want to sleep with and dating someone without sleeping with them. For many people it is determined in the early stages of dating whether or not they want to sleep with someone. That means there will be some people they date without doing. Are you saying you've had sex with every woman you've been on a date with?
No, of course not, but I've not gone on dates with people I knew I didn't want to have sex with.
That is what she was saying, she would date people she knew she didn't want to have sex with. This is my interpretation, but that in part comes from her extensive anti sex threads which have framed that interpretation.
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Correct. I've dated men who I didn't find sexually appealing, but I would never not be willing to date someone who I do find sexually appealing (unless there was like a serious problem with them).
And it seems my interpretation was correct.
And no, I don't think that is common at all for women.
Sure, the appeal can (and often does) build over time if things go well, but most people won't date people they don't find appealing.
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Again, that's not the same thing, and not what I was talking about.
But it is what SHE was talking about.
She wasn't saying she wasn't going to do everyone she dated. You misinterpreted that. She said she wasn't open to it. She would date people she wasn't open to the idea of doing because she didn't find them sexually attractive at all.
See now, I couldn't date a man I didn't find "sexually appealing"--and with that I mean not that I want to sleep with them, but that I have to have an attraction to them.
I think I get what you're saying though; the "doable" factor comes after the "dateable" factor. Is that what you mean?
I mean that I've gone out with guys who I found somewhat attractive and I enjoyed spending time with them (dateable) but I didn't really have a desire to get naked with them, but I thought maybe I would eventually feel that way. Then there are other guys who I immediately desired in that way (doable) without knowing much about them.
I mean that I've gone out with guys who I found somewhat attractive and I enjoyed spending time with them (dateable) but I didn't really have a desire to get naked with them, but I thought maybe I would eventually feel that way. Then there are other guys who I immediately desired in that way (doable) without knowing much about them.
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