How is the "average day" around your house? Is there alot of tension and bad feelings? (dating, wife)

[questioner2]

Maybe I have been watching to much Dr Phil and his famous dysfunctional families. It seems like they are always screaming at each other all the time and seem to really dislike each other. Considering how much conflict there is in the world and divorces, I have to assume that the mood at the average person's home is strained and angry much of the time. Many of my relatives hates their spouses and would like to send the kids packing to the Marine Corps but they can't so it is a cold war. Because I have no kids and both of us are easy going I am not use to the conflict that may occur at the average household.

How is your household. Is there alot of screaming, yelling, silent treatments, threats, games being played, etc. Or is it loving quiet and peaceful?

[Twinkle Toes]

We don't scream and yell in our home. We're more civilized than that. TV shows are just sensationalism for the viewing audience.

I'd say we are fairly content. Hubby and I get along, but there are those times I wish I weren't married, but it's not because we fight or don't get along. It's just because I am extremely independent and like to have my space. We get along with our kids and really, there is not a lot of strife or conflict in our home. We all get along, we all do things together and we've raised our kids in an environment where screaming and yelling is unacceptable. There are other ways to resolve conflict and screaming isn't it!

[Lillietta]

As Jean-Paul Sartre said, "Hell is other people." I believe it's mainly people that causes stress.

[Mrs. H]

Our house is pretty content and get along most of the time. H and I are still newlyweds but have lived together for over a year and a half...the only times when we do actually have tiffs are regarding the cleaning. I am a very clean individual and he is cluttery. He doesn't like the fact that I like to clean so often because he is also lazy BUT he knows me...and knows that if my house is not clean, then I am not a happy camper. So instead of pouting (which he still does), he'll just go along and help me clean...he does the dishes every night (I do the cooking).

Other than that...we are good.

[Fat Freddy]

Our household is quiet and peaceful with a relaxed atmosphere -- until 4pm when my wife gets home from work.

[Roma]

More tense lately.

[Tzaphkiel]

Currently my household is very peaceful calm and happy. I am living alone and I come home after a day at work and looooooove the quiet and relaxation. When I lived with my children in various combinations (1 or 2 or 3 at a time) it was lively, but also very happy and enjoyable. Lots of noise and activity of teenagers and friends, but there was respect for each other and communication and even when disagreements, healthy ways of working things out. Very enjoyable.

It has always been important for me to have quiet time alone because that is how I feel the most peaceful. The times the household was NOT peaceful was when I was married and there was fighting and tension and not healthy communication and I felt very resentful. I recognized it was not healthy for the children or myself and took steps to address it, my then husband was not willing to address it, we ended up divorcing. I feel though hard for the kids they were young at the time, it was still better to have two separate and more peaceful households for them. Plus when things got bad at their dads they could be at my house for a break. They have since said they felt it was helpful for them to have two houses to go between as far as maintaining calm in their own lives. They are now grown men in their 20s.

[Marlow]

Our household is happy for the most part, but better during holidays and on the weekends when things aren't so stressful. Most of our stress comes from being in a hurry all the time. We're always hurrying to cook and clean up in the evening and trying to get our daughter to do her homework and get into bed. All of that can create tension, but it's not really relationship tension.

[nicolepsy]

my house is always loving and peaceful. i am so happy about that. i have been in other's houses where the vibe and noise are just too much!

[goldenmom7500]

We have a small household and it is loving and peaceful. Before consolidating into a small household it was stressful with a lot of violent (but not physical) outbursts. They were unpredictable, but predictable. In other words, I knew they would happen, but I didn't know what would set them off. It was siege mentality. Now it's just "la-dee-dah".