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I never approach men. I am too shy. I may see a guy that's attractive, but I wouldn't approach. And heck, the guys I find attractive tend to be uninterested, or taken, or both. So, my confidence on making first moves is shot. But if a cute guy came to me, I could laugh and talk up a storm. lol
So, I kinda always wait for guys to come to me--and the ones that do that are the no-good ones, or old ones.
Not just guys. I don't make first moves at all anymore. If I do, it's rare. Like my mother and I shopping, and we go visit my brother at his job. She wanted to visit. When we left, she comments I didn't speak to my brother, and I replied "He didn't speak to me." So, there ya go.
Which I should think is enough proof that contrary to popular propaganda and all the "Grrrrl power!" bulldrek we are constantly bombarded with, women are absolutely TERRIFIED of rejection.
I've only observed the opposite; that women take rejection like no big deal, and just keep moving on to the next prospects. They don't post threads on the internet whining about all the rejection. It's only normal that most people anyone approaches won't be interested. Most people are looking for a certain "type". All rejection means is that the person you approached didn't see you as their "type". It's not a tragedy. It's just part of the weeding and sorting process everyone's involved in. Women seem to be able to suck it up better, unless the guy was really rude, or something.
Like Ruth, I chat with anyone who strikes my fancy (not just people I think I might want to date--which is impossible for me to tell before I get to know the person anyway).
But the main thing keeping me from talking to a man is if he looks mean/angry (AKA, the male equivalent of the "witch face" that some guys complain about). Most guys walk around like that too... like they are just looking to bite someone's head off! Unless they are with a group and talking and laughing and such... but I also rarely talk to groups of people. Maybe one or two people and I will strike up a conversation, but more, I feel awkward unless invited by them to talk to them or if I already know someone in the group and can mix in easily. This also applies to all people (like if I am at a professional networking event, etc... not a place to meet dates, but just to meet people).
Generally it's the fat ones, or those with some other undesirable element to them (age, appearance, whatever).
They know they aren't going to be approached by pretty much anyone, so they swing for the fences. Ugh.
One more reason I'm glad I've figured out how to be practically invisible on those rare occasions when I do go places that I might have to deal with females.
Yeah you should avoid all fat women, I'll warn my friends.
I've only observed the opposite; that women take rejection like no big deal, and just keep moving on to the next prospects. They don't post threads on the internet whining about all the rejection. It's only normal that most people anyone approaches won't be interested. Most people are looking for a certain "type". All rejection means is that the person you approached didn't see you as their "type". It's not a tragedy. It's just part of the weeding and sorting process everyone's involved in. Women seem to be able to suck it up better, unless the guy was really rude, or something.
Because men approach far more. For some reason the gender that approaches the least is quick to tell the other to approach more.
I never approach men. I am too shy. I may see a guy that's attractive, but I wouldn't approach. And heck, the guys I find attractive tend to be uninterested, or taken, or both. So, my confidence on making first moves is shot. But if a cute guy came to me, I could laugh and talk up a storm. lol
So, I kinda always wait for guys to come to me--and the ones that do that are the no-good ones, or old ones.
Not just guys. I don't make first moves at all anymore. If I do, it's rare. Like my mother and I shopping, and we go visit my brother at his job. She wanted to visit. When we left, she comments I didn't speak to my brother, and I replied "He didn't speak to me." So, there ya go.
I have the same attitude as well.
Especially with texting. I have this if they want to talk to me "they will text me." I think it is why I have lost contact with all my old friends, I am too afraid of bothering them or aggravating them. I am talkative once I get comfortable with folks and I will talk about anything.
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