Why are there millions of articles telling men to not be a nice guy? (sociopathic, social)

[SuperDave72]

Originally Posted by VinceShamWow

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The quoted post contains "just be yourself." It is well known that this is the worst dating advice in all of history. Those who are sensitive to bad dating advice should proceed with caution.

Well, yes and no.

For many "being yourself" has gotten them no results, hence that's why they're asking for advice.

But being someone other than yourself often has horrible results, because it's so obviously fake.

So what to do? Improve yourself, THEN be yourself.

[VinceShamWow]

Originally Posted by SuperDave72

Not to get off-topic, but it's rare that something better rises from the ashes.

Chances are better than even that it would be something worse.

Worse from the perspective of the protected classes, the nanny staters, and the PC police?

It's sounding better by the minute. The people who would be worse off are the ones that need to go, anyway.

[VinceShamWow]

Originally Posted by SuperDave72

Well, yes and no.

For many "being yourself" has gotten them no results, hence that's why they're asking for advice.

But being someone other than yourself often has horrible results, because it's so obviously fake.

So what to do? Improve yourself, THEN be yourself.

Sort of, the correct advice is: Be your BEST self. How many of us are actually being our BEST selves?

Very few.

[49ersfan27]

Originally Posted by usamathman

Definitely is easier said than done.

But it is possible. Every man has animal instict. Every man was born in an innate desire to hunt.

Some of us just have been programmed to be passive. Programmed to live in fear.

I think the biggest problem with most men is the fear of rejection and fear of not getting the response that they want.

I don't know one man on the earth that has a 100% success rate with women.

It is ridiculous to think that you will have success with EVERY woman you talk to.

One thing I do know....YOU MISS 100% OF THE SHOTS YOU DON'T TAKE.

Respectfully disagree. Not every man is a hunter and not every man will be good with women. I have a girlfriend but I didn't approach her. I asked her out once she showed interest.

[Auraliea]

It doesn't matter it's all garbage.

No "self help", "good guy/bad guy manual/article", or "relationships 101" is going to determine your future with someone. It is entirely up to you. YOU have to be the one to make the call. Stop listening to everyone else and trust your own judgement. Most of the crap that is on the internet is just there to make a profit.

[Slanderous]

Live your life the way you want to live it.

[Simtropico]

Not every guy is cut out to be a jerk.

I spent my whole life trying to convince each woman I dated that I was a bad guy but none of them bought it because I didn't look the part.

[49ersfan27]

Originally Posted by Simtropico

Not every guy is cut out to be a jerk.

I spent my whole life trying to convince each woman I dated that I was a bad guy but none of them bought it because I didn't look the part.

Women can see through that. Just be your honest self. If a woman prefers a jerk over a genuine good guy, it's her loss.

[Simtropico]

And yes I did show them my bad sides but they used words like "temper tantrum" instead of words like "hot blooded" to describe my actions.

[SuperDave72]

Originally Posted by Simtropico

And yes I did show them my bad sides but they used words like "temper tantrum" instead of words like "hot blooded" to describe my actions.

That's exactly it. If it's not in your nature, you just come across like a screaming toddler.