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Anyway, I went out tonight with some co-workers that I honestly don't care for much, they're all younger dorky engineers who are recent grads, they begged me to go out with them since I rarely drink and I'm kind of their go-to guy or whatever. Sure, why not. It might be a good time and let me see how they have fun.
They were all just standing around the bar talking about work so I left and started mingling with random women, I'd just go sit at their table, introduce myself and talk about random stupid topics. I wasn't even trying to take anyone home, just trying to pass time for the most part.
Near the end of the night a nice looking woman that was talking to a co-worker grabbed me and said "Would you like some advice?" She told me to stop being so over confident. She said I was being too obvious that I was there looking to get laid. I was just walking over to tell the guys lets go, since I was driving home.
I wasn't even trying to get to laid to be honest, was just trying to get away from my co-workers and be social. Should I tone it down a little?
I knew this guy who always acted the oblivious, mysterious dude and he knew what he was doing. When all the other dogs around him acted over eager, he'd play this role. It might work in the movies, but it doesn't in real life.
The woman may have wanted to continue her conversation with your co-worker and you were begging to go and she was telling you to loosen up.
If you sit down at a table of women without being invited, you're either overconfident or just kind of rude. So yeah, you probably do need to take it down a notch.
If you sit down at a table of women without being invited, you're either overconfident or just kind of rude. So yeah, you probably do need to take it down a notch.
There is some truth to this. At the same time, women misread signals just as often as men misread women's signals. Case in point, I was recently surprised when I was approached by a guy at the mall. It turns out I had made eye contact with his wife while casually looking around the store we were in. Moments later and by complete happenstance, I made eye contact with her again. Shortly after that she sicked the hubby on me. He said something to the tune of, "My wife tells me you're trying to flirt with her and I'm here to tell you that's going to stop now." I rolled my eyes and told him to tell his wife to stop flattering herself. Eye contact is a mutual occurrence and I could have just as easily turned my wife lose on her, save the fact I'm not conceited enough to believe incidental eye contact is anything more than it actually is.
In OP's case it sounds like he was the DD. Have you ever been the DD while your pals are all getting drunk? It's boring as hell. It's not unnatural or overconfident to wander around and chat with anyone who will listen. You have to pass the time somehow.
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