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The problem with this forum is that it is completely sopolistic. Even if the topic is discussing a generality, 6 posters will chime in with their anecdotal personal one off experience and claim the generality isn't true. It's obnoxious.
Anecdotes do not trump generality
And yet, generalities do not apply to individuals. Seems we've reached an impasse.
Well, he's not really someone I'd be interested in. As soon as someone says they hate capitalism, I kind of want to run in the other direction. Capitalism just.... is. It's ingrained in our society and makes the comforts we enjoy possible. Hating capitalism is like hating gravity. Now, I can see hating some of the side effects of it, but it's not something that is going to go away. Even in Soviet Russia, capitalism existed in the form of the blackmarket. When people say they hate capitalism, I just can't take them seriously.
I'd be perfectly delighted with a house husband, but kids aren't really on my radar these days and I'd prefer a house husband who could maintain the house, property and vehicles and keep track of the books rather than cook and clean. House cleaners are fairly affordable, and I don't mind cooking at all. And laundry is a meditative exercise for me rather than a chore.
My upstairs tub needs re-tiling though, and my pickup has a shimmy the mechanic can't seem to fix and I've got three shrubs that need to be pulled up, among the long list of things that need to be done around here.
My career is starting to go places, which is shocking for someone who has been as unambitious as I have all my life, but what I've observed with the executives at my company is that they all have stay-at-home wives. They are 50% participants in their husbands' careers. They are all highly educated and intelligent women who take an active interest in what's going on in our company, but they kind of manage the back end of things. Their husbands have no responsibilities outside of work beyond being very involved fathers. I definitely feel like the fact that I'm single and don't have that back-up support is going to hold me back professionally - and I see single male colleagues running into the same problem.
It is nice to see some one get it LOL I just tell people who hate Capitalism to go move to north Korea I hear it great country to live in.
Look, my post is addressing the modern day, strong, intelligent, self proclaimed feminists who DO struggle in the dating world.
They can't continuously sit back and blame men or their jobs for being the sole reason as to why they struggle with dating. Could it be their environment? Sure
But if they're going on dates with guys they deem "normal" and decent and those dates are never getting anywhere, one does have to do some reflecting and look back on themselves.
What else do you as a smart, intelligent, career driven woman have to offer other than walking around and trying to convince everyone around you that you are indeed these things.
Does a comedian have to tell people they're funny? No. So why do certain women feel the need to walk around advertising how they are supposedly smart, intelligent, career driven etc? It WILL show once people get to know you.
But a lot of those women do walk around with a chip on their shoulders and feel that it's necessary to constantly repeat (to themselves and the world ) how they're this way and that way.
I never once said all career driven feminists are single or struggle. But the post was speaking to those who do. In the first line it's rather obvious.
Certainly, there are women such as you describe, particularly within "feminist" parameters. The "I have something to prove" crowd. When "feminism" runs amok, and gets into the realm of projecting contempt and disdain for men, in general a d viewing them as the enemy, whilst staying heterosexual, that can create a problem for a woman to find a male partner willing to put up with that. Just casual hookups can be tough , let alone an actual relationship. My ex wife was much that way, thus the ex part, but I did put up with it for quite some time. Once her true nature broke out there was no stopping the escalation.
It seems, especially in high stress, highly competitive urban white collar environments, there is a higher percentage of working women who are jaded thus. High finance, law, media, and other brutally competitive fields, there are more self proclaimed "feminists" like that. Truthfully, that's gotta be a cold, lonely existince. Wind swept , high lonesome matter of fact.
Yea, perhaps this could be tied to the male escort thread. L, for women in the above category, it would be a good option. Strictly business.
It seems, especially in high stress, highly competitive urban white collar environments, there is a higher percentage of working women who are jaded thus. High finance, law, media, and other brutally competitive fields, there are more self proclaimed "feminists" like that. Truthfully, that's gotta be a cold, lonely existince. Wind swept , high lonesome matter of fact.
Nah. Women in those lucrative careers are the most likely to be married to another high flyer. Money attracts money.
From my experience, A lot of them aren't really "successful" though. They simply have a degree with a decent to good job. I remember a goddamn social worker tried to argue that the reason men don't approach her is because they're intimidated by her success and I was like
I have scared men off because they decided I was "uppity" based on my educational background. Reality is, no one who actually knows me has never thought that at all. Some men do have a problem if their prospective woman is "more successful."
I tend to like to keep my college under wraps for longer now, because of the reactions I have had.
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These days guys like him come a dime a dozen. They are easy to spot. He should probably learn how to have some passion first.
Lol. And let's be practical, a house husband is no bueno in some metro areas. I'd need to make about 300k to afford kids and a good school district in the Bay Area. So yeah...hubby needs to work too. Not so many $300k jobs out there.
[quote=Ottawa2011;35348460]Nah. Women in those lucrative careers are the most likely to be married to another high flyer. Money attracts money.[/QUO.
Hmmm, perhaps. But with inmate distrust of the opposite sex, and the presence of money, sounds like more of a business partnership than a marriage. Well, truthfully, I guess I wouldn't know since I'm poor, so is my lady, so we find happiness in non material ways.
Nah. Women in those lucrative careers are the most likely to be married to another high flyer. Money attracts money.[/QUO.
Hmmm, perhaps. But with inmate distrust of the opposite sex, and the presence of money, sounds like more of a business partnership than a marriage. Well, truthfully, I guess I wouldn't know since I'm poor, so is my lady, so we find happiness in non material ways.
Based on the way you post about your wife, I'd say you're a rich man..........
This quote got screwed up, but it was meant for NVplumber....
From my experience, A lot of them aren't really "successful" though. They simply have a degree with a decent to good job. I remember a goddamn social worker tried to argue that the reason men don't approach her is because they're intimidated by her success and I was like
That's the thing. I think we need something more definitive.
Is a successful professional limited to CEO, Physician or attorney, amount of annual income, number of hours worked? Or is it any successful professional person with degree/training working a white collar job. And this goes for both genders.
My wife is a tenured college professor and believe me, she doesn't want a house husband. I tried.
I would love one if he were true to what the blog portrays as a house husband. But I'm not sure I qualify as a successful professional.
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Seems we've reached an impasse.
