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Originally Posted by Auraliea
Did you ever find yourself trying to feel something for someone, even though you KNOW you are not romantically interested in them at all?
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No to the question.
But if I feel the slightest bit of possibility of a relationship may be there, I tend to give the benefit of the doubt. One of my good friends had a couple months where she was on the fence about the guy she was seeing. He is somewhat shy/awkward and I think he was having a hard time expressing his feelings, but she continued hanging out with him because they had a great time together and shared interests, and eventually after a couple more months things really clicked. They are happily married now.
I have listened to this friend's advice to be patient. I read a great book called "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" (google it before you judge, I realize the name is terrible). Now, I tend to give way more than enough time. In fact, I am past the expiration point with one guy right now.
The strategy is to get to the point where you are absolutely certain that you've invested the necessary time to rule out the possibility of a relationship with this person, and have not dumped someone based on trivial stuff (a slightly annoying laugh, unfortunate taste in music or clothes, not being a sparkling conversationalist at large dinner parties, etc.) When I was younger I literally dumped a guy for being obsessed with a band I thought was cheesy. Now, I am much more patient and willing to look past the objective criteria such as income and height, focusing more on personality, humor, intelligence, shared interests and thoughtfulness.
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