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Are you saying you need porn to experience arousal?
To get into the mood? No. I'm a little hormonal so in all honesty sometimes it takes seeing cleavage to start me up.
I can count (on my hands) the number of times I've handled my business by imagining a crush. But that guy was beyond hot. He's the only guy I've been able to visualize ha.
But I don't have a wild imagination so when I'm solo, I use porn or read erotica.
Never actually had sex, but when my bf and I make out I become aroused. So I don't need porn for arousal in general, but for a solo session, i use it as an aid. It makes the experience more enjoyable. The sounds and the sight. It heightens the experience for me.
I had a roommate and we shared a room so I can and have done without.
OP, I think the moral of the story is if he is choosing porn/solo sessions over sex with you, then there is a problem.
Seek marriage counseling.
How you feel about porn isn't our battle on here. Your opinion is unlikely to change. But the lying and disrespect need to be resolved and you certainly will not be able to fix those issues through CD.
Me personally, I love porn and I could never be with someone who expects me to give it up. I would take that as us being sexually incompatible and I do not want to feel as though I have to suppress my sexuality for a partner who shares different "morals" than me.
But if you feel disrespected by the fact that he's watching it and the lying about it, you need to let him know and he needs to hear you out.
To get into the mood? No. I'm a little hormonal so in all honesty sometimes it takes seeing cleavage to start me up.
I can count (on my hands) the number of times I've handled my business by imagining a crush. But that guy was beyond hot. He's the only guy I've been able to visualize ha.
But I don't have a wild imagination so when I'm solo, I use porn or read erotica.
Never actually had sex, but when my bf and I make out I become aroused. So I don't need porn for arousal in general, but for a solo session, i use it as an aid. It makes the experience more enjoyable. The sounds and the sight. It heightens the experience for me.
I had a roommate and we shared a room so I can and have done without.
I am confused, please help a foreigner out. Are you male or female? And you get hot by looking at guys cleavage? huh?
Bisexual ... forgot this option exists - thanks Julia!!
I am confused, please help a foreigner out. Are you male or female? And you get hot by looking at guys cleavage? huh?
Bisexual ... forgot this option exists - thanks Julia!!
I'm a straight female. Could never date or touch a woman (I don't even like lesbian porn) but eh, boobs are enjoyable to look at. I like the naked female body versus visually seeing it in action (porn/sex).
Won't lie, while I do think men are sexually appealing, a woman's body is a bit more pleasing to look at.
And i don't find moobs or make cleavage pleasing to the eye lol
As well as regular guys who simply don't use porn for legitimate reasons.
I was in a rush earlier when I typed this post and reading it again I realize it can be easily mis-read. What I mean by this is "regular guys who have legitimate reasons (beyond being asexual, a liar, or a weirdo/religious) for not using porn." Hopefully that was the meaning everyone who read it derived from it.
I'm a straight female. Could never date or touch a woman (I don't even like lesbian porn) but eh, boobs are enjoyable to look at. I like the naked female body versus visually seeing it in action (porn/sex).
Won't lie, while I do think men are sexually appealing, a woman's body is a bit more pleasing to look at.
And i don't find moobs or make cleavage pleasing to the eye lol
Ok so i have been married for 3 years and in a relationship with him for 4. It all started when i was in the shower and came back into the room and he jumped from the computer and we ..... I was very suspicious when he jumped up from the computer when i walked into the bedroom, so i looked at the history and found he was looking at pictures of women right before i came into the bedroom. I confronted him and he said it was to keep him ready for when i came in. I told him how i did not like that at all, and how uncomfortable it made me.
I do not care that he watches porn, i occasionally will watch it with him. The real problem is he watches porn and plays with himself everyday, porn is his first choice when it comes to sex. He also gives me no affection unless he is in the mood. and once the deed is done he is off watching TV or playing on the computer. And recently he was hiding things from me and lying to me so i once again got nosy and looked through his history. This time i found that he was looking at hundreds of pictures of women at a time. There was also a few porn sites that i do not care for that we had discussed he not look at also on his history. I confronted him and he told me he didn't do it he had no idea how they got there and got angry and left for a few hours. Mind you this is his laptop and nobody goes on it other than me.
I eventually got it out of him that it was him who did it. and i thought we had worked it out. I told him i was not ok with him looking at hundreds of pictures of women, a few here in there i cant *****. But dozens i am not ok with. We also talked about certain cites that i was not ok with. Just to clarify these sites are Facebook, because apparently you can get porn pictures from it, Craigslist because you can meet up with these women, and 4 chan because of the first incident i spoke of. I asked him to find other websites since there are thousands of them, and not to have hundreds of pictures of women. Expecially since he is just looking and not playing.
and once again i find that he is lying to me and doing the same stuff. Is this a problem?? Am i supposed to be ok with him doing this? I feel like i am very open about sex and porn, but i also feel like i am being walked all over.
Figure out why he feels the need to lie to you....maybe that's on you and how you would react.
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