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I'll admit I'm weak. I have been single for a long while and pains me more when a guy cancels on me. Or rejects me. I feel miserable. Lonely and depressed. More like doomed i'll never find someone to love me. I don't want to die alone. I just want these feelings and emotions leave me.
Here is how i look at these situations, ( we've all been there and feel your pain ) - Anyone that rejects you or cancels with no good reason and starts to fade is doing you a favor in the long run. Its a hurtful way for them to let you know but they let you know on the front end what kind of person they probably are and you will be better off without them.
None of us wants to be with the wrong person do we ? ( long term )
Time heals all wounds. Just keep reminding yourself, that a lot of the pain is just from the feeling of rejection in general. When you try to look at things objectively, you'll start recognizing reasons why the relationship could not work out. The brain is a funny thing, give the situation a few months, and you may well see your lost love in an entirely different light.
- Keep busy
- Set a new goal of some sort to focus on (or do what distracts you)
- Don't try not to think about them (it's like being told not to think about a white bear... what's the first thing you picture in your head?) But when you find yourself thinking of the person, alter your thoughts and start thinking of all the negative things too and really think of those things. Negative things are things you didn't like about the person or reasons it would never work.
- If it's really bad, write down all the negative things... even assume negative things if it helps. Or say them out-loud.
- Give it time
I'll admit I'm weak. I have been single for a long while and pains me more when a guy cancels on me. Or rejects me. I feel miserable. Lonely and depressed. More like doomed i'll never find someone to love me. I don't want to die alone. I just want these feelings and emotions leave me.
Nope...stuff like that don't go away. Wasn't meant to. We NEED our memories. Good and hurts so bad it floors us. Makes us who we are. Memories aren't meant to drag us down. They're there to keep us moving forward..If a memory hurts, its just helping us remember we're not dead yet, and to keep moving.
Everyone has hurt. Ain't no shortage of that in the world.. Most of us have plenty on our plates. It you have ghosts following v you, which most do, best to just make friends with them.
I'll admit I'm weak. I have been single for a long while and pains me more when a guy cancels on me. Or rejects me. I feel miserable. Lonely and depressed. More like doomed i'll never find someone to love me. I don't want to die alone. I just want these feelings and emotions leave me.
The secret for you won't be some magical way to forget someone.
The secret for you is to build up some self-esteem that has nothing to do with what anyone else thinks of you.
You are attempting to derive your happiness from external sources. This is always a FAIL.
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