Those of you that use online dating do you feel lead on if you get a reply from someone that isn't interested? (women, love)

[rollswithandywarhol]

As a decent looking guy I get a couple first contacts a week. Mostly from women I find no way attractive. Sometimes they seem like decent people and I'm temped to just have casual conversation with them. Would you feel lead on?

I don't really mind it when it happens to me. I figure they're not interested either way but at least we chatted some and I feel like I got a chance.

[Ottawa2011]

No... I wouldn't feel led on unless we made arrangements to meet up and the guy flaked. Chatting is just chatting...

[NilaJones]

I do, unless he makes it clear at the outset that his interest is of the nondating variety.

Which is easy enough to do: 'I don't think we're a match, but I love the artwork you have on your profile! How did you get that shade of puce?', etc.

[srjth]

Aha! So single guys DO chat up women they aren't attracted to. :P

I agree with Nila that you should let them know from the start that you're just interested in being friends only.

[Raena77]

Ah, if he needs a buddy I'm here.

[NewYorker11356]

Male guys already have it hard enough, and more so during online dating. I think if you're not interested in the guy, DO NOT send a reply, even if it's just chatting.

Edit-Unless like NilaJones said, you state your intentions from the onset.

[srjth]

Originally Posted by Raena77

Ah, if he needs a buddy I'm here.

I am willing to be buddies too, as long as he says that's what he wants. State your intentions.

[CarbonCountyLiving]

Originally Posted by srjth

I am willing to be buddies too, as long as he says that's what he wants. State your intentions.

Agreed. Sometimes those relationships are more fulfilling than the romantic ones.

[Nema98]

Originally Posted by NewYorker11356

Male guys already have it hard enough, and more so during online dating. I think if you're not interested in the guy, DO NOT send a reply, even if it's just chatting.

Edit-Unless like NilaJones said, you state your intentions from the onset.

I totally agree with this, you should always be forward with your intentions.

[Amelie90]

Originally Posted by rollswithandywarhol

As a decent looking guy I get a couple first contacts a week. Mostly from women I find no way attractive. Sometimes they seem like decent people and I'm temped to just have casual conversation with them. Would you feel lead on?

I don't really mind it when it happens to me. I figure they're not interested either way but at least we chatted some and I feel like I got a chance.

I wouldn't necessarily feel led on. I don't let chatting go on forever, and I don't think an uninterested guy would send more than a few short messages that most likely wouldn't be very engaging.