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My only question is why he spent 43 years without marriage? Does he not like marriage? Does he flit from relationship to relationship? Is there an issue about whether he truly likes women? Does he prefer isolation? Are there some hidden issues there?
Why can't you give him the benefit of the doubt?
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Originally Posted by srjth
I would think he's probably too picky for me or is anti-marriage. Or he kept staying with women who never wanted to marry him.
This is a perfect example of the stigma of not being married. People make assumptions instead of waiting to gather all the facts.
I'd rather be with someone never married and didn't settle or be dumb enough to make a wrong choice and divorce. I guess people would rather have someone divorced 2 or 3 times. Because you know, marriage is just something people can throw away.
I tell them the truth. I used to be very fat and men don't like fat women. I leave out the fact that losing weight hasn't helped me one bit they are still allergic to me and have been my whole life.
I tell them the truth. I used to be very fat and men don't like fat women. I leave out the fact that losing weight hasn't helped me one bit they are still allergic to me and have been my whole life.
how fat? and what did you drop down to?
i never knew of a man that was concerned about a woman never being married unless she has multiple children by different daddys
he can find out what he needs to know by listening to her... women tend to give out alot of information when they talk
Go for it! I think we're going to start seeing more and more people who chose never to get married or delay marriage until their late 30's or even 40's.
It's funny (not funny ha ha, but funny peculiar,) that if someone reaches that age and has one or two divorces behind them, people don't think anything of it, but if they've never been married, surely there's something really, really wrong with them!
There are definitely people who DO think something of it if somebody is that age and has one or two divorces behind them. If you show a pattern of being unable to sustain marriages/making poor choices in who you marry/etc., there are absolutely people who will write you off as a potential partner.
People will always have their biases, and those biases exist all the way across the spectrum.
I would think that those things as a possibility but that doesn't mean I wouldn't gather the facts from him to find out.
Yes, but why would you think those things in the first place? When I meet someone who's divorced, I don't think to myself that they cheated or ran up a huge debt or did something else to cause the divorce. Instead, I give people the benefit of the doubt.
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