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I am not worried about her getting back together with her ex. The main issue I am having is that the house is very crowded because there is a LOT of the ex's furniture still in the relatively small house: a desk, sofas, dressers, a TV, refrigerator, clothes, a safe, pictures, cookware, a knife set, and probably more I can't recall. Because of this, there is not enough room for me to squeeze my few items in it. My girlfriend has complained about the strange location of the few things I do own (none of which include furniture), and I really don't have any other place to put them, mostly because of the ex's junk that's still there.
I assume that since you didn't answer the question, and instead listed every item that the ex has, that you indeed broke up with long term relations to be together, which IMO, is relationship suicide....you say you don't have much, so get a storage unit, costs less than 20 a month to store what little you say you have. Hmmm seems the both of you are complaining about mundane things anyway...don't forget your g/f and her ex shared that living place. You knew what the deal was before you moved in. Obviously you needed to move into that situation instead of waiting until things cleared out. Don't you find it interesting that your g/f would be complaining about your few items, instead of the clutter you claim the ex has stored there? Just the fact that you are moving into the place before the ex is moved out, is shady....don't get me wrong, I have been involved in several cheater's triangles, but I never intended them to turn into anything more than a sexual relationship.
I assume that since you didn't answer the question, and instead listed every item that the ex has, that you indeed broke up with long term relations to be together, which IMO, is relationship suicide....you say you don't have much, so get a storage unit, costs less than 20 a month to store what little you say you have. Hmmm seems the both of you are complaining about mundane things anyway...don't forget your g/f and her ex shared that living place. You knew what the deal was before you moved in. Obviously you needed to move into that situation instead of waiting until things cleared out. Don't you find it interesting that your g/f would be complaining about your few items, instead of the clutter you claim the ex has stored there? Just the fact that you are moving into the place before the ex is moved out, is shady....don't get me wrong, I have been involved in several cheater's triangles, but I never intended them to turn into anything more than a sexual relationship.
God forbid she get her own place instead of hop from bed to bed, wherever she can find a place to stay, using that person until she finds someone else she would rather be with.
Judgments aside, it's not unreasonable to keep things of hers there, but there should also be a reasonable deadline for when these items should be out. There's a reason there are storage facilities that can be rented. But in the meantime, if this is very fresh, I would cut some slack because the poor woman is scrambling in a less than ideal living situation.
That was what I was requesting. I know we put her in a terrible spot, and I didn't want to make it harder on her. I suggested we give it X amount of months (3, 6, etc) for her to remove her items. That way, we would set some boundaries but also allow her time to set up a new housing situation where she would have the space she needed to include her furniture. Alternatively, we could have rented her a storage space. But my girfriend is a very nice lady, so she doesn't like to set boundaries, especially since she already feels guilty about the situation. Perhaps the best idea would be to ignore it for a while longer, and if it continues, bring the subject up again.
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Originally Posted by convextech
God forbid she get her own place instead of hop from bed to bed, wherever she can find a place to stay, using that person until she finds someone else she would rather be with.
Wow, such judgmental comments. Your idea of me "hopping from bed to bed" is patently false. I left a six year relationship.
Your idea of me "hopping from bed to bed" is patently false. I left a six year relationship.
Perhaps; I apologize.
But you left that relationship for someone else. You and your new girl hurt people that got in the way of what you wanted, and now you want them all to go away. It doesn't work like that.
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