Arranged marriage in the USA, would you do it? (Christian, boyfriend, girl)
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We should respect the cultural custom from different countries.
Yes, true. But I don't want to give up our tradition. I respect love marriage and dating life the western world engages in, but at a personal level I would not be willing to engage in it. Cultural preservation at a personal level is of great importance to me. I will make good friends with people from different backgrounds. But making them my lifelong partner is an entirely different story.
Nowadays ~50% of all American marriages end in divorce. Therefore considering an arranged marriage maybe is not such a bad thing.
Maybe arranged marriages produce better relationships in the long run than do typical American marriages, in which people find each other on their own and romance is the foundation.
Choosing a marriage partner is not an American thing, it's part of every single Westernised country where woman and men have a choice. And the fact America has a high divorce rate is not a reflection on the fact there is a choice. I think your extrapolating is incorrect here.
Maybe you should choose shows that are a bit more intellectually stimulating instead of pop culture garbage
And the answer is a big fat hell NO. I like being a westernised girl in a westernised world and having choices.
Good for you, and for the record I trust arranged marriage more than anything else. It has preserved our family culture for over 500 years. I still have original manuscripts written in the 1570's about my ancestor's lives.
Last edited by Adi from the Brunswicks; 07-09-2014 at 06:35 AM..
Congratulations. If you know what you are getting into and want it (i.e. are not forced) I see nothing wrong with it.
Let me tell you a bit about our arranged marriage.
We have a festival called "nichiadhartham" (Finalization of marriage) in southern India, where you get to spend time with your future wife prior to the marriage ceremony. During this period, You are free to stop the marriage, and are given the option to accept or reject. Additionally, we also meet each other on a frequent basis for a few years. And its not like our parents meet only one family. Just as I meet with several women, my parents will get an opportunity to meet their families before finalization.
Besides, I'm trying to figure out how I would be "scientifically matched" to someone. What does that even mean? OK Cupid has been great for determining compatibility in terms of interests and beliefs, but not for determining spark, attraction or even likeability.
I am not sure if being "desperate" has anything to do with it, but there are MANY desperate people - see posts on Relationship Forums...
Why are desperate people (and the desperate measures they go to) treated with contempt?
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