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This came up with a group of friends recently: When you are dating getting to know someone, which is more uncomfortable / difficult / sensitive / for you: talking about sex or talking about god?
That would be in terms of your own level of squeamishness, vulnerability, personally going out on a limb and revealing yourself. So....which area is harder for you to discuss? And why?
I'd have to say either...depends on the person because the subject of sex could be a forbidden subject and the same could be said about God and religion.
I don't have a problem talking about sex, but I'm not going to bring up a topic like that early on in the dating stages. I have to trust them as a friend before even thinking about sleeping with them. But one could joke about the sexploits of Paris Hilton or take about some movie plot just to get a take on how kinky that person is about their sex habits. Sex talks shouldn't start off being so serious imo.
Or do you mean asking your date if he is clean of STD's? Well when you get to the point of being ready to have sex with him, just tell him that it's time for the two of you to get tested. No biggie. Maybe not the most romantic subject in the world, but it has to be done. Especially if you both have had other sexual partners in your past.
About God, that's never a problem with me. Anytime that I have liked a guy and was interesting in dating him, I quickly screen him for his God beliefs, if he wants kids, if he smokes cigarettes and his drinking habits. That's never a difficult questioning process for me. And if God is a part of his life, then I'm out. Fortunately for me, the guys I have liked are always atheists. But there are always clues, like them needing to go to church on Sundays etc...
Neither for me, I guess it would depend on the other person's comfort level. I'm good on both topics, as far as being comfortable having a heart-to-heart.
I guess it's more nerve-wracking for me talking about god, religion, spirituality because I feel like he's more likely to turn tail and run if I reveal I have a rich spiritual life; whereas most people I date are thrilled to be with someone sexually adventurous and articulate.
About God, that's never a problem with me. Anytime that I have liked a guy and was interesting in dating him, I quickly screen him for his God beliefs, And if God is a part of his life, then I'm out. Fortunately for me, the guys I have liked are always atheists. But there are always clues, like them needing to go to church on Sundays etc...
LOL!!!!! That is great!!! He could be a closet pray-er but he would have to hide it really well!!!
I've never overcome my generations reticence in talking about sex, and although I can joke about it, if we are talking about one-on-one sex, I'd say I'd rather talk about God.
I've never overcome my generations reticence in talking about sex, and although I can joke about it, if we are talking about one-on-one sex, I'd say I'd rather talk about God.
and what generation is that? Or to put it bluntly, and if you don't mind revealing to our studio audience, how old are you?
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