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Old 07-12-2014, 09:36 PM
 
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[quote=Dewdrop93;35625311]It's really just a waste of time talking to you so I think I'll stop now.


I say the same thing about women.
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Old 07-12-2014, 09:39 PM
 
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It's really just a waste of time talking to you so I think I'll stop now.



You LET it scar you for life. I was teased. I was ridiculed. I had other girls gang up on me. I cried all the time in elementary school. I had a guys make fun of me. I had people call me fat. I had an eating disorder. But you know what - lots of people get called fat and don't develop an eating disorder. I realize that my own issues were the cause of my problems.

Are you going to continue to let some little girls affect your life today?
No. I shouldn't. But I can't shake this belief that I'm unlikeable.
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Old 07-12-2014, 09:41 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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No. I shouldn't. But I can't shake this belief that I'm unlikeable.
Kids are cruel. That's just the way things are. For all the anti-bully campaigns and books and movies and whatnot - it's ALWAYS going to be a problem. That's just life. Only you can decide if you are going to let things that kids says over 20 years ago affect you for the rest of your life or not. I chose not to.
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Old 07-12-2014, 09:42 PM
 
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Then find a new therapist. It's important to find one that you connect with.

As for women deserving abuse - I don't think any decent human being agrees with that!
I'm having a free phone consultation with a potential new therapist in a couple weeks.

I agree. I guess the other poster was just trolling.
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Old 07-12-2014, 10:23 PM
 
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I say the same thing about women.
personally i think women are the greatest gift god gave man, next to the promise of eternal life. and us guys turn around and abuse that gift. so is it any wonder that women are wary around men?

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No. I shouldn't. But I can't shake this belief that I'm unlikeable.
actually you dont want to shake the belief that you are unlikeable, so you proceed to do things that sabotage you with women.

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Kids are cruel. That's just the way things are. For all the anti-bully campaigns and books and movies and whatnot - it's ALWAYS going to be a problem. That's just life. Only you can decide if you are going to let things that kids says over 20 years ago affect you for the rest of your life or not. I chose not to.
well said.
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Old 07-13-2014, 11:16 AM
 
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Kids are cruel. That's just the way things are. For all the anti-bully campaigns and books and movies and whatnot - it's ALWAYS going to be a problem. That's just life. Only you can decide if you are going to let things that kids says over 20 years ago affect you for the rest of your life or not. I chose not to.
I disagree, one thing that the anti-bullying campaign is teaching is that in situations of bullying it isn't on the person of the receiving end of the abuse but that bullies need to take responsibility for their behavior.
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Old 07-13-2014, 11:23 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I disagree, one thing that the anti-bullying campaign is teaching is that in situations of bullying it isn't on the person of the receiving end of the abuse but that bullies need to take responsibility for their behavior.
You think people will stop being bullies because they realize that they need to take responsibility for their behavior? I totally disagree but I guess only time will tell. I'm not saying that they should stop the anti-bullying campaign or that people should stop trying to make a difference - I'm sure it does make some sort of a difference - but there are always going to be bullies and there are always going to be kids that put others down. That's what I believe, anyway.
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Old 07-13-2014, 11:59 AM
 
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Seriously, all of you who answer his posts are just as much to blame. He's not going to listen to you. Either ignore him or accept that his posts will always be this way.
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Old 07-13-2014, 12:10 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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Seriously, all of you who answer his posts are just as much to blame. He's not going to listen to you. Either ignore him or accept that his posts will always be this way.
Pretty much. He seems like a decent guy but he's not looking for any kind of help here. I know it gets labeled as off topic, but it's why I suggest just writing in the blog here. If he just wants to vent, that's the place to go.
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Old 07-13-2014, 12:23 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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I know they're not that bad, but I'm highly sensitive.
This is your answer. I have not read any of the responses on this thread beyond the first page or so, and don't intend to, but I can imagine how it goes. You need to grow some thicker skin, for your own self-preservation. Continually retreating back to the slights suffered when you were a high schooler, etc. is weak, it's dwelling, and it's not helping you, it's only going to hurt you.

You need to get over it. There will always be people who will be jerks to you. People who are jerks QUITE OFTEN don't outgrow it, they simply become adult jerks and continue on their jerky ways. Avoid them when you can. Take them with a grain of salt when you can't avoid them. Surround yourself with decent people. Stop pinning all your beliefs about yourself in life on how crappy people respond to you the way crappy people generally do.
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