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I've had a couple relationships with co-workers; one was awful, the others were alright, just some differences so we ended it mutually each time. Maybe it's just a different culture at certain companies?
As for the OP, yes, you can. Just make sure you and the person you're hanging out with are on the same page..
It is an across the board bad idea. I'm a huge proponent of non fraternization policies. Even if the couple is mature and works it out, it often affects others in the workplace. Completely unprofessional. There is absolutely NO reason to date at work unless you live in a ho dunk town with only one employer.
It is an across the board bad idea. I'm a huge proponent of non fraternization policies. Even if the couple is mature and works it out, it often affects others in the workplace. Completely unprofessional. There is absolutely NO reason to date at work unless you live in a ho dunk town with only one employer.
The thing is, when I was young and just starting out I had no social life other than the office. I would be there from 8:00 in the morning to past 10 or 11 at night, with some heavy take-home work on the weekends. So it made sense for me to try dating some coworkers. And it's a pretty big company/office too, I don't know if that would affect your opinion.
Now, yeah, I don't really date my coworkers anymore since I have some more time to socialize outside of work. But I don't think my previous relationships did much if any harm to my productivity or anything.
It is an across the board bad idea. I'm a huge proponent of non fraternization policies. Even if the couple is mature and works it out, it often affects others in the workplace. Completely unprofessional. There is absolutely NO reason to date at work unless you live in a ho dunk town with only one employer.
Yes there is. Hot guys only exist at my job. Although I did see a really hot guy working at the grocery store this morning, but I can't just stalk him while he's working. Stalking guys while I'm working is easier.
what does it matter what other people think of you 2?
This is another great example of women care too much what other people think and over-analyze a situation.
It makes no difference to me, but it "came up" after this happy hour. And I got reminded again when I was watching According to him and her, a show that basically has a panel of people discuss relationship stuff. It was funny, since more than half of the people said "no, it is not possible." So I thought it would be an interesting topic.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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The thing is, when I was young and just starting out I had no social life other than the office. I would be there from 8:00 in the morning to past 10 or 11 at night, with some heavy take-home work on the weekends. So it made sense for me to try dating some coworkers. And it's a pretty big company/office too, I don't know if that would affect your opinion.
Now, yeah, I don't really date my coworkers anymore since I have some more time to socialize outside of work. But I don't think my previous relationships did much if any harm to my productivity or anything.
Not really. I worked in public accounting at one of the big four, the early years are like that. Lots of travel. Insane hours. Huge number of people and offices. Still, not acceptable in my book. I've given a talking to to more than a few subordinates. It just creates trouble for people and the company.
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Yes there is. Hot guys only exist at my job. Although I did see a really hot guy working at the grocery store this morning, but I can't just stalk him while he's working. Stalking guys while I'm working is easier.
No, not a good reason at all. Exactly the wrong reason.
And then it occurs to me. For some people having drinks with someone of the opposite sex (or more inclusively the sex you are interested in) means date.
So what do you all think, do you only have drinks one-on-one with the opposite sex if it is a date or can it just be friendly?
So if you meet one-on-one for tea or coffee instead, it's not a date? Is it the choice of beverage or venue that determines date-i-ness? Who makes up these rules? Is there a rulebook somewhere?
I'm with you, jade. Just file this under "petty gossip", and do whatever you want. As long as you and your friend were clear it wasn't a date, that's all that matters.
Sheesh. Maybe the two of you should wear a sign saying, "We're Not On A Date!"
So if you meet one-on-one for tea or coffee instead, it's not a date? Is it the choice of beverage or venue that determines date-i-ness? Who makes up these rules? Is there a rulebook somewhere?
I'm with you, jade. Just file this under "petty gossip", and do whatever you want. As long as you and your friend were clear it wasn't a date, that's all that matters.
Sheesh. Maybe the two of you should wear a sign saying, "We're Not On A Date!"
Oh that is a good idea! Now I should think about the beverages for another experiment.
Although I can't remember where I heard this, there are people who think it is the drinking that is the problem. Since drinking makes people more "uninhibited." And I guess bars have darker mood lighting? Hmm I don't know. I choose my drink based on the time and the person's interests. Tea, coffee, smoothies, raw juice or booze are all fair game! The venue is inconsequential. But maybe other people drink more at bars than I do. for me, I have a 2 drink max on a given day.
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