How long should you court the girl, pay for dates, etc? (American, casual)
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Yes. My mom always told me that a guy should always pay when going out/that's part of treating you right. Unfortunately it's very difficult to find a guy like that.
Really? I always assumed that American men are a lot more gentleman-like and chivalrous than what I'm used to.
Really? I always assumed that American men are a lot more gentleman-like and chivalrous than what I'm used to.
I couldn't form a basis for comparison, but there's some simple "supply and demand" in effect here. There are more women that want men to do the paying than there are men who are willing to do the paying. So there aren't enough of that kind of guy to go around, so to speak.
Without digging into the fine details (which do change over time), how long should you court your woman?
EVERY DAY for the rest of your life. Treat her like a princess and find one who wants to treat you like a prince. I promise you'll be happy a long way down the road when you are finally king and queen. Relationships are all about what you can give, not what you can get. It doesn't work if one person always gives and the other always takes. Both should always give.
Call me an idealist and a romantic, but I stood in front of friends and family (mine and hers) and swore to love her with everything I've got for the rest of my life. I intend to keep that promise.
Really? I always assumed that American men are a lot more gentleman-like and chivalrous than what I'm used to.
Its a big changing country so it all depends on where you are geographically, culturally and chronologically. I am in my 50s and live in the South. People here are and in my age bracket are generally more gender traditional and chivalrous that what you would see in 20-30 year olds in NY or on the west coast for example.
Thanks, but why are you shocked that I'm European? Bad experiences with our kind?
I've never dated a European actually, but I have read that dating and gender relations are exactly like you described in the OP. I assumed they preferred it that way because I've never heard any [European] man say otherwise. I am pleasantly surprised to read of you and your thoughts. It's romantic.
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Originally Posted by 1orlando
Do it as long as you feel is ok, as long as you are not being taken for a ride.
Yes, this. Assuming that all women will take you for a ride is just not true. When you show a good woman your heart and your kindness, she will show you hers too.
Showering her with gifts? Why? I've never heard of that. I wouldn't be comfortable with that, myself. And usually at some point, the paying for dates becomes reciprocal. If you do everything for her, you never give her the chance to reciprocate and show her appreciation. Don't overdo it. You're overdoing it.
Showering her with gifts? Why? I've never heard of that. I wouldn't be comfortable with that, myself. And usually at some point, the paying for dates becomes reciprocal. If you do everything for her, you never give her the chance to reciprocate and show her appreciation. Don't overdo it. You're overdoing it.
Apparently not for a true princess, though.
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