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I'm a gay guy that have grown increasingly in love with my landlord but he is definitely not gay and obviously not interested in me. He is very much straight and only interested in females.
My brain tells me that nothing will ever happen between us but my heart just refuses to face reality. I do things for him. I give him things and basically is as nice to him as anyone can be but yet he doesn't even reciprocate. Obviously he doesn't know how I feel about him so maybe from his perspective, my overly kindness may be bizzare?
Anybody else ever been in this type of emotional situation?
My personal philosophy is that when you fall for someone you know is unavailable for whatever reason (married, not the same preference, etc.) it is a sign from your inner self that you are ready to find a relationship with someone who is available and who has some of the same attributes as the person you are currently attracted to. Why do you like this person so much? Write down a list of his attributes that really attract you and then go out and look for a gay guy with the most important of those attributes.
But yes, as the first response says, do leave him alone. Especially if you like living in your current building and have no plans to move. You don't want to mess that up or have an embarrassing situation where he feels he needs to avoid you, or vice versa. I think one way of saying it is the old adage, "Don't foul your own nest."
I'm a gay guy that have grown increasingly in love with my landlord but he is definitely not gay and obviously not interested in me. He is very much straight and only interested in females.
My brain tells me that nothing will ever happen between us but my heart just refuses to face reality. I do things for him. I give him things and basically is as nice to him as anyone can be but yet he doesn't even reciprocate. Obviously he doesn't know how I feel about him so maybe from his perspective, my overly kindness may be bizzare?
Anybody else ever been in this type of emotional situation?
I suggest that you save the emotional hurt that you are putting yourself through and move so that you won't be constantly reminded of him. You can't make someone care about you.
I understand wanting to do nice things for people that you care about. However, there are times when we (myself included) do it in the hopes that person will notice/love us for what we do rather than notice/love us for who we are.
When I was a teenager and younger, I liked around 8 boys--different grades and times- who didn't feel the same.
But I am over all of those crushes now, and some I wonder why the fixation. Now, it's only pride wounding, since I couldn't get any of them--no game. lol
Otherwise, I normally just have strong infatuations-celebrities, book/movie characters, etc. I have had 30 of those, from now, since I was 8.
So, sure. Everyone knows about 1-sided feelings. It's happened to most at least once, even the hot people had had someone they couldn't get. Thing is moving on. Focus on something, or someone else.
I'm a gay guy that have grown increasingly in love with my landlord but he is definitely not gay and obviously not interested in me. He is very much straight and only interested in females.
My brain tells me that nothing will ever happen between us but my heart just refuses to face reality. I do things for him. I give him things and basically is as nice to him as anyone can be but yet he doesn't even reciprocate. Obviously he doesn't know how I feel about him so maybe from his perspective, my overly kindness may be bizzare?
Anybody else ever been in this type of emotional situation?
It happens. Don't let your feelings continue to dictate your actions. There's nothing to be had there. Let it go before it causes problems for you and your landlord.
I'm a gay guy that have grown increasingly in love with my landlord but he is definitely not gay and obviously not interested in me. He is very much straight and only interested in females.
My brain tells me that nothing will ever happen between us but my heart just refuses to face reality. I do things for him. I give him things and basically is as nice to him as anyone can be but yet he doesn't even reciprocate. Obviously he doesn't know how I feel about him so maybe from his perspective, my overly kindness may be bizzare?
Anybody else ever been in this type of emotional situation?
yes i have been there, many times. do yourself a favor and move on. if he is not willing to return the favor, then you are just wasting your time, and his, and probably making him uncomfortable around you.
Romance has always been pretty much one sided for me on my side and the guy's side.
As for you, you should just try to move on. Eventually you'll get tired of the lack of reciprocation and knowing that nothing could possibly happen between you two. You'll move on, and probably find someone else.
It can be frustrating but i don't let it tear me apart like some people do. Looking back, i have fonder memories of times I spent with women i fell in love with who put me in the friend zone than real relationships i was in with women i settled for but wasn't really into.
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