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withholding sex, being a "female dog"(not just to me but to anyone in my presence who doesn't deserve it, people in the service industry in particular), trying to manipulate or control me, thinking that she is a special princess who can get away with anything she wants and who has everything paid for her/done for her and it's an insult if I don't go along with it. It's usually not just one thing that does it but a combination of things.
Having nothing to say contributing to a conversation but agreeing with every thing .
Tells me
a. she doesn't know what she thinks,
b. afraid to tell me what she thinks,
c. trying to gain my approval, regardless of what she really believes.
Lies about ,
1. her past,
2. her activities, hobbies, sports, athletics,
3. previous relationships,
4. gossip,
5. blame game,
6. promiscuity.
7. spiritual depth.
Buys me things, and tries to buy my approval or compromise.
I compromise with reason, not with emotion.
I give approval with honesty and discipline .
These are expected out of me , I expect it out of some one I am connected to.
My connection to her is a reflection of my choices to others, what my values are.
If she does not hold to the same values ,both our children, and other will be confused as to what our values are.
It is a mistake to attempt to change some one to fit , this is a very old, hard lesson to learn, never the less critically important.
If you think your better than the thousands that have made this mistake, then by all means ignore the warning.
Wow, so many guys in this thread appear to have never been in love, and have no idea what relationships are. And yet they feel qualified to post!
LOL, please, do tell then. Love does not mean being a doormat for a controlling, manipulative, b*tchy, spoiled brat of a woman. There are plenty of women out there who have none of those traits.
Besides, this thread isn't about love, it's about the early stages of a relationship and what behaviors/traits make us men run the other direction.
What are some behaviors that immediately make you lose interest in a woman?
A few for me:
Constantly on the phone. Can't go 5 minutes without texting or making a phone call.
Needy. Getting super clingy after a few times hanging out
Hardcore feminist views
Expects to be catered to. Makes it very clear you should be paying / driving / taking care of her 24/7
Doesn't know how to cook and wears it like a badge of honor
Mine are a ...bit...different. Mine:
Alcohol and drugs to abuse and excess. Total deal breaker. I would be gone at mach speed.
Hasn't held a job and is always "between". Yea....between everything.
Total whining about her life. Can't make it. Giving up attitude. As if someone should rescue her based on very limited merits.
A sense of entitlement based on looks alone. I absolutely despise this trait in a woman. It just screams " material girl" with zero depth of character.
As I've grown older , and find myself unmarried, I look for something special. I found it. Just ain't married her yet, but I will.
As we age, we look less at annoyances and more at real differences. That won't work.
What are some behaviors that immediately make you lose interest in a woman?
A few for me:
Constantly on the phone. Can't go 5 minutes without texting or making a phone call.
Needy. Getting super clingy after a few times hanging out
Hardcore feminist views
Expects to be catered to. Makes it very clear you should be paying / driving / taking care of her 24/7
Doesn't know how to cook and wears it like a badge of honor
It depends,
But lying is a big red flag for me.
Being overly critical and judgmental as well.
If you wanted to be with me, you'd accept me as I am. I'm your date / boyfriend, etc. I'm not your project. Find someone who is more in line with what you want.
Many other things would depend on a lot of other factors.
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Being overly critical and judgmental as well.
If you wanted to be with me, you'd accept me as I am. I'm your date / boyfriend, etc. I'm not your project. Find someone who is more in line with what you want.
This is probably my biggest one. I like me for who I am and where I'm at. If you do not, keep looking.
Lack of accountability
Making excuses for behaviours
Not willing to see both sides of an argument
Basically the "my **** don't stink" types
They come in many forms from "nice" people to straight up aholes
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