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What is the one thing you refuse to compromise on in your mate/potential mate?
My top priority in a mate was intelligence. Of course there were other things I looked for in my mate, but high intelligence was a must. I also had to be attracted to them, but I was attracted to different looking guys. They had differing height, weight, hair and eye color. Their personalities varied too. The one thing they all had in common was a high intellect.
One of my friend's top priority was humor and another had to have a really tall guy.
If I am dating a guy, I want to have a monogamous relationship. I don't do swinging, poly, or anything involving extra people. Exhibitionism included. I consider my love life to be private, with only the 2 of us. If it's in our house, and no other people involved, anything is open, sans anything painful on my part. I don't get off on pain.
No offense to those who are non-manogamous. It just wouldn't work for me. A guy I am infatuated with is poly. He has many women, but is shown to be nothing but chivalrous and kind where women are concerned. But, he's fiction, in a series I follow. It looks sexy on him, but something are good in fiction, but not reality. I think his smoking looks hot. But in reality, I hate smoking, and it's one of my deal-breakers.
So, no compromise on that. If he can't be monogamous, we are going to have to break up.
So, pretty much looks are your top priority. I'm not knocking that, as you must be attracted to your mate. What if the person was a bit apple shaped like Kate Upton or Angelina Jolie? ( they are ever so slightly Apple shaped although they are gorgeous)
I bet more men answer with a looks response than women do, even though looks are important to women too.
There are a handful of top priorities to be fair, but right now, the first thing that comes to mind is independence. I can't stand clingy guys. Then again, maybe it's because I am running into so many recently, lol.
But I would also add kindness, integrity, humor, and respectable to that list. And yes, I have to be attracted to him physically, but really, no matter how good looking he is, if he doesn't have those other attributes, it doesn't matter. And even the guy isn't the best looking in the world, but has those other attributes in spades, he just becomes more physically attractive to me.
Someone who makes me his priority. That's pretty much it. What good is all that extraneous crap about smarts and looks and humor if he isn't even that into you?
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