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I told my girlfriend if we go to the beach we should go early. She takes a while to put on make up and stuff. When she made a face showing she doesn't like to wake up early I said " ok we should leave at 9:00. Are you sure you can make that?" She promised she would.
The next morning I woke up at 9:00. My girlfriend was the one who woke me up. She was already ready and I overslept. I hurried to get ready and we got out by 9:45. She was very angry with me.
I promised that I would take a shower in the morning and I didn't. Also I promised we would leave at 9:00 and we didn't. Plus I made a joke about her not being able to make it in time, then I was late. The whole day she was in a bad mood.
At first I tried to explain that I'm sorry, but 45 minutes late and isn't a big deal. If she was 45 min late I wouldn't mind. The shower thing was because I was in a hurry. Also I was wondering why she didn't wake me up until 9:00 if it was such a big deal to her. With this on my mind, my apology, was awful. Not very sincere. We can't seem to get over this fight. Do I just need to suck it up and apologize without any "well you could have woke me up" "Well it's not a big deal anyway".
Is this a time where the women just gets the argument because shes more stubborn? This happens quite often where I'm apologizing for something I don't feel guilty for. I have never in 3 years gotten angry at her for something she has done to me. Maybe this is just a horrible personality mismatch and I need to end this.
I promised that I would take a shower in the morning and I didn't. Also I promised we would leave at 9:00 and we didn't. Plus I made a joke about her not being able to make it in time, then I was late. The whole day she was in a bad mood.
I assume you're not 8 years old, so you need to act like it. This ^^^ kind of crap would not be acceptable with a friend, a relative or an SO.
You need to apologize for your behavior about the beach.
Also, please don't start a new thread for every argument you two have. Just add on to your other original thread.
You made a big deal about her being on time and then you slept in and are blaming her for not waking you when you're the one who wanted to get going early. It's a tad hypocritical.
Why did you make promises and then not fulfill them, minor as they might be? I think a genuine apology is the only answer here.
You've heard the expression "If a tree falls in the forest, does it still make a sound?"
How about "If a man opens his mouth in the forest (or beach), is he still wrong?"
The fact that you don't seem to understand why you should apologize, when anyone with a shred of common sense and regard for others would have apologized without even thinking about it tells me that yes, this should end. So your girlfriend can find someone else.
I know nothing about the rest of your relationship, but the fact that you can't seem to grasp the need for a basic apology in this situation is kind of alarming to me. What you did wasn't even that bad. But your refusal to accept that you were at fault for inconveniencing someone else is just bizarre.
I told my girlfriend if we go to the beach we should go early. She takes a while to put on make up and stuff. When she made a face showing she doesn't like to wake up early I said " ok we should leave at 9:00. Are you sure you can make that?" She promised she would.
The next morning I woke up at 9:00. My girlfriend was the one who woke me up. She was already ready and I overslept. I hurried to get ready and we got out by 9:45. She was very angry with me.
I promised that I would take a shower in the morning and I didn't. Also I promised we would leave at 9:00 and we didn't. Plus I made a joke about her not being able to make it in time, then I was late. The whole day she was in a bad mood.
At first I tried to explain that I'm sorry, but 45 minutes late and isn't a big deal. If she was 45 min late I wouldn't mind. The shower thing was because I was in a hurry. Also I was wondering why she didn't wake me up until 9:00 if it was such a big deal to her. With this on my mind, my apology, was awful. Not very sincere. We can't seem to get over this fight. Do I just need to suck it up and apologize without any "well you could have woke me up" "Well it's not a big deal anyway".
Is this a time where the women just gets the argument because shes more stubborn? This happens quite often where I'm apologizing for something I don't feel guilty for. Maybe this is just a horrible personality mismatch and I need to end this.
Her behavior stems deeper based off of your actions in this relationship...
If something like this happened to me, indifference is your answer. You're there to have a good time not to argue, whine, suck up, and complain to.
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Originally Posted by SliceableStew
I have never in 3 years gotten angry at her for something she has done to me.
What I read:
"Never in 3 years have I put her in her place when she was acting out of it."
I told my girlfriend if we go to the beach we should go early. She takes a while to put on make up and stuff. When she made a face showing she doesn't like to wake up early I said " ok we should leave at 9:00. Are you sure you can make that?" She promised she would.
The next morning I woke up at 9:00. My girlfriend was the one who woke me up. She was already ready and I overslept. I hurried to get ready and we got out by 9:45. She was very angry with me.
I promised that I would take a shower in the morning and I didn't. Also I promised we would leave at 9:00 and we didn't. Plus I made a joke about her not being able to make it in time, then I was late. The whole day she was in a bad mood.
At first I tried to explain that I'm sorry, but 45 minutes late and isn't a big deal. If she was 45 min late I wouldn't mind. The shower thing was because I was in a hurry. Also I was wondering why she didn't wake me up until 9:00 if it was such a big deal to her. With this on my mind, my apology, was awful. Not very sincere. We can't seem to get over this fight. Do I just need to suck it up and apologize without any "well you could have woke me up" "Well it's not a big deal anyway".
Is this a time where the women just gets the argument because shes more stubborn? This happens quite often where I'm apologizing for something I don't feel guilty for. I have never in 3 years gotten angry at her for something she has done to me. Maybe this is just a horrible personality mismatch and I need to end this.
I would say she is not a forgiver and she apparently let you oversleep just to hang your comment over your head forever.
She needs to be left alone with her grudges to mature before being picked.
I would have let you sleep in, too. And then I would have let you have it.
Hell, I would have let him sleep in so that I could head out and enjoy the beach myself.
OP, your problem is you have no respect at all for the feelings of your girlfriend or for the time commitments you have made to her. Seems like her world has to revolve around you and your sleeping habits. She'd be wise to move on.
She doesn't need to wake you up, you are not a child. Show some responsibility. Set an alarm clock.
Your apology means nothing to her because you keep doing the same thing over and over again. It's just empty words at this point.
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