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It's just the way we are. Besides, many men have been made fun of by women when they did verbalise it.
I find it interesting that so many guys say that they get made fun of or looked down on by women for expressing emotion (well, not anger or jealousy so much.) Most women I know would be thrilled if/when their men were appropriately emotional, and I can't imagine ever faulting a guy for it.
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I find it interesting that so many guys say that they get made fun of or looked down on by women for expressing emotion (well, not anger or jealousy) Most women I know would be thrilled if/when their men were appropriately emotional, and I can't imagine ever faulting a guy for it.
If they are I'm willing to bet the relationship is at a stage where it is effectively over anyway, and the criticism of verbalizing emotions is a symptom, and not the problem itself.
I find it interesting that so many guys say that they get made fun of or looked down on by women for expressing emotion (well, not anger or jealousy) Most women I know would be thrilled if/when their men were appropriately emotional, and I can't imagine ever faulting a guy for it.
Many wouldn't like and would think the guy was weak. Personally the only woman who can watch me cry is my mother.
But, like what jillabean said below, it's important for both people to keep the lines of communication going and doing what's best for their SO, not just for themselves. So sure, some women need to accept that their partner is showing that he loves her by doing things for her, but at the same time, some men should realize that saying those three little words to their women is not stupid and pointless (at least to her it's not.)
I get it. This is why I told her I loved her, it was a need she had and I acted on it. I didn't need the words because I could tell she loved me, it was a truth that was all around me all day in every way and that and not words matter to me. She would say those words anyways because saying it mattered to her. My message was rather different.
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Men and women both say I love you in countless ways that have no words, men moreso than women I think. It seems to me that some people miss the forest seeking one tree without ever realizing the thing they sought was all around them. Dont miss the forest.
Men and women both say I love you in countless ways that have no words, men moreso than women I think. It seems to me that some people miss the forest seeking one tree without ever realizing the thing they sought was all around them. Dont miss the forest.
Many wouldn't like and would think the guy was weak. Personally the only woman who can watch me cry is my mother.
That's interesting. I'm wondering if it's cultural/socioeconomic, because that attitude is not something I'm familiar with. I think repressing one's emotions is weak.
Woman! lol I should have seen that one, usually there is a smiley but you often don't use one in such situations. Have to remind myself of the nuances, I've been off playing...
That's interesting. I'm wondering if it's cultural/socioeconomic, because that attitude is not something I'm familiar with. I think repressing one's emotions is weak.
Might have had something to do with my father, when I was small I never wanted to cry in front of him because I thought I would disappoint him.
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