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Old 08-04-2014, 04:52 PM
 
Location: Denver
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It's like "Pretty Woman" LOL


Because I just booked the flight.
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Old 08-04-2014, 04:56 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Well, I think $600 for a three day trip to visit someone who you've only met once would have any average person uncertain. But maybe I'm wrong about that.

And the idea of not liking to accept large gifts is just a weird quirk of mine. I mean, it's more of a humility thing than anything. If you think about this scenario, I have a girl who wants to help fly me out, take me to an event, and well...we'll see where it goes from there . Who wouldn't want that? I guess I just feel really honored and undeserving of it all though. It's just the way I was raised.
I feel like you are kind of dancing around the real issue. Are you physically attracted to her? I've never heard those word used against a woman a man is attracted to unless he is suffering some self esteem issues.
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Old 08-04-2014, 04:58 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Because I just booked the flight.
Good for you! Report back to us after the event. I hope all goes well. (But feel free to say "I told you so" if it doesn't! )
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Old 08-04-2014, 05:01 PM
 
Location: Denver
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I feel like you are kind of dancing around the real issue. Are you physically attracted to her? I've never heard those word used against a woman a man is attracted to unless he is suffering some self esteem issues.
Yes, I am attracted to her. I would have broke it off if I weren't interested. We've been chatting for the past several weeks now, but we only met once. That was my biggest hangup about the whole thing. I didn't know if this sort of thing was normal between two people who had just met.
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Old 08-04-2014, 05:02 PM
 
Location: Denver
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Good for you! Report back to us after the event. I hope all goes well. (But feel free to say "I told you so" if it doesn't! )
Hah, thanks. I'm optimistic that it'll go well. She's blowing my phone up with texts as I type this. She seems very excited. I am as well.
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Old 08-04-2014, 05:02 PM
 
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Yes, I am attracted to her. I would have broke it off if I weren't interested. We've been chatting for the past several weeks now, but we only met once. That was my biggest hangup about the whole thing. I didn't know if this sort of thing was normal between two people who had just met.
It didn't used to be. But with the internet these days, and so many LDR's, "normal" has changed.

Have an awesome time!
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Old 08-04-2014, 06:07 PM
 
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Oh boy, I can imagine some of the responses I'll get from some of you on this. Well, here goes...

I have a romantic interest who wants me to come visit on short notice. There's this event she wants to go to and she apparently doesn't have anyone local to go with. So she has offered to pay half of my airfare if I choose to fly out. She has already purchased the event tickets, so that would be part of the deal.

We've had one date when she was in town, but we've been talking for several weeks now over the phone. This individual is trying to relocate to where I currently live (that was her plan before we met). I'd love to go visit her and join her at this event. However, I don't know that I'm particularly comfortable with accepting her overture for paying half the fare. And at this point, the airline tickets are quite pricey (especially to justify for a short weekend trip), thus I'm not too eager to drop the full amount of the ticket because I already have some big plans this month (family coming in from out of town) that were planned months prior to this. My hangup is that we don't know each other all that well and if things didn't work out for whatever reason, I'd hate to have this on my conscience.

Thoughts? Would you accept the offer and see where it goes? Would you politely decline the offer and continue to pursue it over the phone until hopefully this person moves out here?
I would politely reject. I don't like to take from strangers, and I don't trust people very easily. So, a paid plane ticket to fly out to meet someone I'm unsure of? Even if it's free? Not worth it.

She plans to move out to where you live anyway, so I don't know why she's so eager? Odd..

Anyway, good luck. Maybe you'll really like her after all.
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Old 08-04-2014, 06:31 PM
 
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A girl paying half of the airfare (or any expense for that matter) whom you are not married to, in a committed relationship, or sharing a bank account? Wow! Now, if it was the other way around responses would be a bit different here.

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Old 08-04-2014, 06:42 PM
 
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I say no. Unless it's a formal event that she can't go stag to, she should put on her big girl panties and go by herself. Go and you'll be out half the airfare and be in a bad situation if you don't get along.....it's just too soon in the relationship. Personally, I think she should pay the entire cost of airfare!
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Old 08-04-2014, 06:44 PM
 
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Because I just booked the flight.
Not really, since Julia Robert's character actually got paid to be an escort!
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