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Old 08-06-2014, 11:51 AM
 
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Then have fun being alone until the day you die. Your choice.
Not all of us are super brave with a terrific personality. Someone has to stay behind. As long as I can help others and do something with my career, I will be pleased.
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Old 08-06-2014, 11:54 AM
 
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Not all of us are super brave with a terrific personality.
Wow. Several of our posters here have said almost this same, exact thing. You don't need a terrific personality. Guess what--she likes you the way you are. Yes, it's possible! Not only is it possible, it's a reality! She likes you with exactly the personality that you have!


So, now what are you going to do?
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Old 08-06-2014, 11:55 AM
 
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She may become interested in my friend pretty quickly if she gets to know him better LOL. I can't see a reason why she would prefer me over him.
Well, she does prefer you over him, so get used to it. That's not going to change. So what are you going to do about it?

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Old 08-06-2014, 11:59 AM
 
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Wow. Several of our posters here have said almost this same, exact thing. You don't need a terrific personality. Guess what--she likes you the way you are. Yes, it's possible! Not only is it possible, it's a reality! She likes you with exactly the personality that you have!
Still, I have a hard time believing it.


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So, now what are you going to do?
Not sure yet.
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Old 08-06-2014, 12:07 PM
 
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I'm 23 and I never had a girlfriend. Never did anything with a girl and don't think one has ever looked twice at me. I don't mind because I'm realistic about my average looks and my lack of talents/interesting personality. Besides, what matters to me is finishing my degree and simply doing the things I enjoy.

I belong to a volunteer organisation who trains helpers for events, music festivals, etc. I was at this festival with a friend and I had noticed since training a girl always wanted to be around us. She would find any excuse to belong to the same group as we did and be tasked the same duties as we were.

I was sure she was trying to catch the eye of my friend. He's good looking, super sucessful in his degree and has a talent for a million things, especially in sports. However, she didn't pay him much attention at all, she was always speaking to me and interested in what I was saying. If I started to tell a funny story that had happened to me, she always wanted to know more and if I needed to so something she would say "I'll go with you".

Now she has started to talk to me on FB and she seems a little too interested for someone who just wants friendship or is acting friendly. It had never crossed my mind she could want something more, especially with my friend (who's available) around.
Yeah, ask her out and see what response you would get. Not all women are going to be attracted only to looks. There are people that are more drawn to what is beneath the surface.

Or she could just be a little intimidated by your good looking friend.

I myself am average (at best) even though women have suggested a higher level of attractiveness, but I say I'm average because anyone can look amazing when they find what works for them, but I have had quite a few surprises from women, especially recently. The ones that I'm most attracted to have caught me off guard with their interest.
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Old 08-06-2014, 12:10 PM
 
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I'm too embarassed for that.
Why???




Let me help you.

Something along the lines of:

I am interested in you as a person. What do you think about meeting for coffee/lunch (any activity.)
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Old 08-06-2014, 12:10 PM
 
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Calling Bullcrap on the career, work, helping people comment.

You are just making excuses to cover up your fear of rejection.

Porn is only going to get you so far dude.

You don't want to be 25...30.....and have never asked a girl out.

MESSAGE HER RIGHT NOW....AND ASK FOR HER PHONE NUMBER.

THEN CALL HER AND SETUP A COFFEE DATE.

Cut the porn off and put away the lotion dude.

Time for you to find a lady.

Time to be selfish.

Time for you to finally do something BIG for yourself.

I wish I would have had this kind of support when I was your age.
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Old 08-06-2014, 12:15 PM
 
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I'm 23 and I never had a girlfriend. Never did anything with a girl and don't think one has ever looked twice at me. I don't mind because I'm realistic about my average looks and my lack of talents/interesting personality. Besides, what matters to me is finishing my degree and simply doing the things I enjoy.

I belong to a volunteer organisation who trains helpers for events, music festivals, etc. I was at this festival with a friend and I had noticed since training a girl always wanted to be around us. She would find any excuse to belong to the same group as we did and be tasked the same duties as we were.

I was sure she was trying to catch the eye of my friend. He's good looking, super sucessful in his degree and has a talent for a million things, especially in sports. However, she didn't pay him much attention at all, she was always speaking to me and interested in what I was saying. If I started to tell a funny story that had happened to me, she always wanted to know more and if I needed to so something she would say "I'll go with you".

Now she has started to talk to me on FB and she seems a little too interested for someone who just wants friendship or is acting friendly. It had never crossed my mind she could want something more, especially with my friend (who's available) around.
you seem to be the kind of guy that needs to be hit over the head with a baseball bat for someone to get your attention.

heck yes she is interested in you, take her out to lunch and get to know her. right now she is easy picking for you for a date, perhaps a few, and if you play your cards right, and the two of you are compatible, perhaps a long term relationship will blossom from this.
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Old 08-06-2014, 12:18 PM
 
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you seem to be the kind of guy that needs to be hit over the head with a baseball bat for someone to get your attention.

heck yes she is interested in you, take her out to lunch and get to know her. right now she is easy picking for you for a date, perhaps a few, and if you play your cards right, and the two of you are compatible, perhaps a long term relationship will blossom from this.
She's making this about as easy for him as she could, short of asking him out herself.

Heck, I normally wouldn't advocate this, but for her it might work, based on the context...asking her out through facebook. Could you do that, OP?
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Old 08-06-2014, 12:20 PM
 
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Could you do that, OP?
Doubt it, wouldn't go online for a week out of embarassment.
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